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Hi and welcome! Just to clear up some common terminology, if you are romantically dating both of these people, the term is "triad." (Some people call it a "throuple," but that term puts emphasis on the couple, so it's not actually used by experienced polyamorists.) So your couple really likes a...

Lostinlove16, you can start a new thread here in the Relationships section, with more background, or you can just add it here on this thread, so it's all in the same place for the members who are following along. If you do start a new thread, please add a link to this one. Or, you can start a...

OP, you probably know by now you posted on the wrong board, but I am going to address some things for other confused people who might read this. If you've only been swinging for two years, and have recently taken a break, it seems these "long-term third" relationships lasted just a few months...

One more person here to tell you this is a board for polyamory, not a board for swinging/"the lifestyle" or casual sex, threesomes, etc. It sounds like your wife had great chemistry with her date, had several drinks and had sex in the car. Those are the basic facts. (We didn't really need the...

You said earlier you didn't want to invade your wife and L's privacy, yet you felt it was no problem to spy around the house to see where they were? I don't understand why you did that. It doesn't seem horrible to me to have an 8-year old sitting alone on the couch for a while, perhaps watching...

Hi, I moved your thread from Intros to Relationships since your post was so long and detailed, and you asked for feedback. I second Kevin's suggestion to read around Golden Nuggets. The info there shouldn't be overwhelming. Read a few articles, and a couple of books, especially Opening Up and...

Hi and welcome, We ask that all couples coming here "seeking a third" to "add to our relationship" to please read this, for educational purposes and to comply with the intent of the forum. https://polyamory.com/threads/a-note-for-couples-posting-seeking-ads.156754/ Thank you, Your Mod Team

I hear your request. I just thought Ariakis was trying to tell the OP that mono/poly relationships are doomed to fail, that the monos in those situations are always "lonely" or worse. I have found that not to be true. It seemed too bleak. I have seen them work fine. Period. I don't care about...

Who in the examples I stated is "solo poly," in your opinion? I truly don't understand. I spoke of committed couples where one was poly and one was mono, not interested in dating more than one. Whether they are "mono" or "solo poly and choose not to date" is an assumption. I don't think they ID...

I've been poly-wired all my life, but I lived a mono lifestyle until I was 53. (Well, except for that one summer going into my sophomore year at college. Those was a good few months...) Where was I? Okay. I have personally known more monogamous people partnered to poly ones than you have. And...

Hi and welcome. I am quoting and replying to several of your posts. It sounds like your husband is a naturally outgoing friendly, big-hearted kind of guy. Is that right? It might be one of the things that originally attracted you to him. My bf Aries is this kind of guy. He is full of energy...

I'm so sorry, but it sounds like your relationship with A has run its course. A is infatuated with B. You are now in the process of being discarded. I am not sure whose home you three are living in, but if B is not on the lease, firmly ask him to move out. It's not his place, right? It's yours...

Of course HIV is the biggest concern. It takes 10-18 days after exposure for the test results to be accurate. And if you get it, you're on meds for life. It's not cured with antibiotics. "Gay or bisexual" men are most at risk, but from my experience, there are a lot more bi men out there than...

That all sounds good so far. :) Well, that's not a problem, as I see it. It's normal and healthy for people in relationships to have personal boundaries. It is not at all inappropriate. I'm not sure why you're even asking if it's okay to talk about safer sex practices. Everyone needs to be on...

You're in the right place! Welcome. :) If you read around the board for a week or so, you will find we all go through the same things when we are new to polyamory! Mismatched libidos are universally common. Also, sex dwindling after X amount of years a couple has been together is common. This...

I personally wouldn't date anyone who would move a new partner in after two weeks. That is pretty well guaranteed to be a disaster. I also prefer parallel polyamory with new metamours, so if this person was in my partner's home full time, I would date this person by going out with them, or...

The articles are all gathered in one thread in the Golden Nuggets section, along with many books, a podcast, etc. Humans seek companionship. Most of us do not have just one friend, and one spouse, and that's it. We have circles of family, friends, colleagues, neighbors, community organizations...

You're assuming here that lostinlove went on an actual date. Right now he's just taking himself out, as per "The most skipped step." When either of my partners sees their other long-term partner, I do not expect to hear every detail. Certainly not with Pixi, since she sees Malachi every week...

It sounds exactly like you're following the advice given in the article "The Most Skipped Step"! Good job.

Hi and welcome, We ask that all couples coming here "seeking a third" to "add to our relationship" to please read this, for educational purposes and to comply with the intent of the forum. https://polyamory.com/threads/a-note-for-couples-posting-seeking-ads.156754/ Thank you, Your Mod Team