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Moving day Taking this thing over to the "Life stories and blogs" section. I'm hoping that there are people seeing this who maybe found some comfort in reading about someone going through the same thing they are. If you're still reading and haven't lost heart after finding I made the switch to...

Figured it was time to move my rambling away from the introductions page. My stuff shouldn't keep updating over new peoples threads. I worry it comes off as selfish and unwelcoming. So here I am in the "Life stories and blogs" section. My story before this can be found under "Mono Husband...

Vinsanity: Sorry I missed replying to you but I think my above reply explains my feelings on it. I appreciate your concern though. Thanks for taking my interests into consideration!

I feel like I need to explain the nature of my relationship a little better. Spitfire and I are new to this and taking things slowly. We love each other very much. We want to maintain a healthy relationship and a good environment for our children. In the spirit of that, we are doing our best to...

So, just another update in case people are still reading this. We're still alive. We had a real good phase there. I was talking to a dude or 2, Spitfire was talking to a dude or 4. She encouraged me to make the first move and be the one to go out and meet someone in person first. It would help...

Hi! Sounds like some rough waters to be in. I'm a little new to this whole thing so please, take what I say with a grain of salt. You said you've been "talked at" for hours and it's exhausting. I know the feeling. Do you get to do much talking during these sessions? This sounds like a major...

So I'm currently working through the process of disentanglement with my wife. It's a real slow process, especially considering there's nowhere for me to go or nothing for me to do on my "me days". I usually end up sitting in my car listening to music. Last time I went to a gym for some cardio...

That guy sounds like a fucking douche! I hope your wife sees what a huge red red flag that question is in any setting. I'm glad to hear that things are improving. I'm seeing a bit of that myself though I had a trust backslide this morning. Are you finding that weird little things are suddenly...

Hey Mzill, So much of your post rang true for me. I feel like you're taking it much better than I did but, you've read my thread. Thanks for the link, by the way. I'll check it out when I have a little more time on my hands. I'm still feeling the occasional pangs of jealousy. How are you doing...

So a quick update: So far, things are going well. I've really come to appreciate Spitfire more. We're taking things pretty slow. She's still talking to the men from before but she hasn't moved past that. She's told me one wants to set up a time to meet her. I'm just not there yet. I'm mulling...

GalaGirl: Truer words were never spoken.

GalaGirl: So many questions. I'll try and answer the best I can. Spitfire works about 3 hours later than I do. Traditionally we share the chores but with her working so much I'm doing roughly 80% of the housework. I've left her laundry for her to put away because I prefer to put away my own...

So I didn't drop off the face of the Earth or anything, I was just incredibly busy last night. Got to the whole "acts of service" part in the book I'm reading and did all the dishes, laundry (wash/fold/put away), cook dinner, cleaned the bedroom after I picked up the kids and before she got home...

Kevin: I brought up that same analogy to Spitfire last night. She hadn't thought of it like that before. More than likely it's just her syntax. She does not feel the same way about words that I do. It's another thing we talked about last night. She admitted that she doesn't know how to express...

We had a pretty good weekend. Spitfire and I rented a beach house and took the girls and the dog. We got to spend a lot of quality time together there. The first night we stayed up late and talked about a lot of things. We started a firm plan for disentanglement. Set some dates in the calendar...

Today was a bit rough for some reason. A lot of self doubt. I'm working on building myself back up while I work on trying to reshape our marriage. About to go off on a family excursion for the weekend so I figured I'd shoot out a few replies. GalaGirl: It's one of the first things we decided...

Can't sleep. I've been having a lot of trouble sleeping lately. Today was pretty great. My wife didn't have to go into work until later and she got to leave early. I had the whole day off for the sake of social distancing. We dropped the kids off at daycare together for the first time (we're...

Magdlyn: Let me be clear. I have not been in the battlefield. It would be disgraceful for me to let you continue thinking that. I do deploy but the only thing I've ever had to battle is a few fires and flooding compartments. One of the first things my wife and I talked about when we started...

FallenAngelina: Thank you for the reassuring words. That fear is very real. I'm going at this with a lot of hope. I'm looking forward to learning about and experiencing the community. Tinwen: The overall situation is fairly relevant. After 4 years the NRE wore off. She needed more from me and I...

GalaGirl: Thank you. I do feel much better. I'd like to try my best to answer some of your questions. I don't quite have the hang of the quotes system on this site so I'll have to make do with copy and paste. "So... why is it your wife's job to "fix" your void rather than you fixing it your own...