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Hi. I am glad you are here to learn about poly. It is generally recommended that poly people be up front from the very beginning. It's the ethical way and the easiest way to avoid the dilemma you are facing now. He should just straight up tell her and deal with the consequences. The goal isn't...

Yesterday, Florida had it's highest number of new cases thus far. And that's just the ones that were counted. But hey, Disney is open now :rolleyes:

Unless this damage is somehow reversible, that doesn't change much. It just offers a possible explanation for the behavior. They are still going to need therapy and a way deal with that behavior. I do think it was unfair of the OP to leave out that important information, making his wife seem...

Yeah, I'm not sure if this is on the up and up or just a clever way to phish for emails.

It's not only poly if it's done right. There are bad ways to "do poly" as well. The fact remains that he is not that all into poly. Well, her behavior certainly isn't working out so obviously it needs to change in order for things to work out. I think you are playing on the word "needs" here...

You're living the dream. You've met a partner and the two of you pledge your love to each other, and only each other, forever. Then suddenly, BOOM!, your partner announces they are no longer monogamous. We call that "dropping the poly bomb". It can be quite the shock. It's also a touchy...

That was exactly what she did, along with indicating she felt he should inform meta of the threat level of his current living situation. Sounds pretty responsible to me.

To me, the death of George Floyd was the spark that ignited a powderkeg filled by the current administration. The reason I am proud of my daughter is because she is taking part in political activism for the right side. I was a little worried about her because her mother was a racist, which is...

I am so beaming with pride right now. My youngest daughter participated in a march in Ohio. She was arrested and detained for 10 hours, but is doing fine. Like father, like daughter.

Well I am envious you have a record store...lol

I would call this a yellow flag. DADT is an actual thing, but it could also be a cover for cheating. When I first met my wife she was in a DADT with her then husband. I was fine with that because I knew who he was and had seen him around so I knew she wasn't cheating. When she and I became...

It's been my experience that one should never believe it when a woman says she doesn't want anything special done for their birthday... lol But I agree with GalaGirl. This is a hurt of her own making. I'm not sure how it became a thing in our society to make everything a test. Maybe it's easier...

If a partner told me that, I would look at it as finding out how unimportant I am in their life. At that point I would probably be done. At the very least I wouldn't take the relationship seriously anymore. Sorry to be so blunt.

It doesn't sound like a big deal. You got to meet her. Everything is cool. Now you can let B and M decide when to include you in the future, if at all.

Pay attention to what these people are telling you. Maybe you thought you would come here and all of us poly people would give you some magic formula for becoming poly. It doesn't work like that. The problem isn't your jealousy. The problem is that you don't want poly. Putting up with something...

Hi and welcome to the forum. My impression is that this is your wife's problem to figure out. You can be supportive and listen to what she needs from your relationship, but you can't fix this for her. My wife and I had a poly/open relationship and it worked for us. I am poly and my wife was...

Wife is a complete mess. Sorry you had to go through all of that. If it were me, I would cut her out completely. As for your partner, I'm not sure about him. If he was here I'd tell him to grow a sac. He needs to stand up for his rights. If I was in a similar situation as you, I would probably...

I look at swinging as more of a recreational activity. Since it's usually a couples activity, it would be difficult to get out much. It would be a good idea to not have strangers coming into your house for sex if there are children there. Kids really put a damper on a couple's social life. If a...

She's deep in NRE and making common newbie mistakes. It's ok to advocate for yourself.

Yes, I think she is doing it on purpose, though not necessarily to hurt you. It does sound like she has that Queen Bee thing going on. When it's the three of them, she is the center of attention. I really don't know what would happen if you tried to discuss it with her. My sense is she doesn't...