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Thank you Cindie, Kevin and Mags for seeing me and what I've been trying to do. I know words can be misread often and everyone views others situations based on personal experience so I won't take the negativity personally. Yesterday we had a short chat with a counsellor. She doesn't know all...

Wait...so me trying to explain to my husband that I've changed and how I view the world in a calm and collected manner is 'bullying' just like him threatening to take our kids away from me, kick me out of the house, scream in my face, tell me to 'fake it till you make it' in the marriage and...

Things are not going well here. If I want a polyamory lifestyle, my husband says I have to leave. Last night he was shouting in my face that I was wrong wrong wrong. I've tried my very best to explain myself but he still sees me 'leaving an 8 year marriage for a 4 month fling' and thats really...

I have a real issue with authority and being told what to do, haha! However I have young children and I struggle with that balance of needing them to do as I ask them (I.e, you can't just trash our house with all your toys) and then telling them they are free to choose in life. You know? I...

If you're saying that DNA determines the way we choose to do relationships, that's a whole other convo right there...

*puts hand up* Cherry picker right here...a real shame really.

I made a post a while back about tribal shame, you might find that interesting. I've been doing some research into what the Bible says about monogamy and polyamory. I decided that whilst I don't sign up to what the Bible says now, my husband does and I want to respect that, so I want to know...

Mainland Europe, super quick and easy and relativity inexpensive to get to! Thank you Karen. I feel torn in two directions so I'm in a lot of pain right now. But no one on one of the sides even really acknowledges the pain. They just think I'm confused and 'spend too much time on the internet'.

I'm currently abroad visiting a friend to have some time out from home and get my head around what path I take (in many aspects of life, not just relationships). I may ramble about it here or I may go silent. I don't know yet. But I do want you all to know your support is highly valued...

Aah that's not what I meant. I meant that I don't want it to be messy and angry so that every time we see each other it's like 'argh'. I think relationships have the ability to adapt if you let them.

Thank you so much graviton, he is most definitely not a terrible person, granted he hasn't deal with situations in such a great way but then nor have I really. I'm not really sitting here thinking "oh well, time to move onto the next person!" because I love him dearly. We have had a good 8...

Yes they are all in the church. I didn't think about the tribal shame thing... I'm at my sisters right now but tomorrow I'm going home. I'm not sure what will happen from there but I may take some time away from home to get in a better head space

Keeping my head down never works. Argument which resulted in him telling me that if I choose this lifestyle then I need to leave. So he asked me to leave the house. I left and took the kids with me but it's only temporary. Not entirely sure what to do now. My whole family think I should stop...

Very well articulated; more love, less fear. This is the philosophy I adopted for my life when I left the church. Those in the church were promoting love love love and freedom freedom freedom and saying Jesus gives that to you. But I just couldn't find it. I'm not Christian-bashing here I'm just...

Thanks for the advice and viewpoints everyone. Right now feeling pretty damn emotionally exhausted but have another counselling session on Tuesday so kinda trying to keep my head down until then.

My personal thoughts on this is that living a life of love is more 'evolved' or 'healthy' or 'forward moving' than living a life of fear. Regardless of the form that takes. If living a life of love means one relationship for someone, and not choosing monogamy out of fear, then that's great. If...

Your guilt is based on your feelings and preference, not hers. You get to enjoy something she doesn't...but actually, if she is monogamous then she wouldn't enjoy it! I'm loathe to compare it to hobbies but say you loved to swim and she hated the water. Would you feel bad going for a swim just...

In a way, I wish I'd never used the words polyamory or polyamorous. Part of me feels that it has complicated things, it's given me a label which my husband struggles to understand. It's made me a different person. Really, I'm the same person I always was. I've always struggled with having to...

Whilst I haven't previously agreed with Max, I agree with all of this. I wouldn't see the point in shaking up my world and bringing pain to my husband by being open about polyamory, if I didn't want to live a polyamory lifestyle. That wouldn't make sense to me personally. And I also agree...

Preaching to the choir, although for me it's more about loving someone's soul, their heart, their 'them' rather than a sexual desire, but then I am pretty much demisexual so that makes sense.