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Thank you all so much for the wonderful advice. Really, when I said I want my children to make their choices, I really meant I don't want them to grow up with the attitude I had. I was a people pleaser and I wanted my parents to be proud of me. They made it very clear what behaviour they...

Sounds like she wants it all exactly her way and gets arsey if she doesn't. My husband isn't overly romantic. Have you ever heard of the 5 love languages? My husband and I have different ones so he shows his love differently to me. Maybe that is the issue you have. From what I can see, one of...

Thank you everyone for your responses yet again. Researching info on the Bible sounds like a good idea. I will try to fit that in somehow!! Galagirl, that is pretty much exactly what I say to my children. I just want them to make their own choices. My worry is that things will be more strained...

To be perfectly honest, from the advice I have read on here I would say that you and your wife have many issues to sort through without other relationships being involved. Perhaps you have jumped into poly too quickly, and need to reassess. If you carry on this way, it sounds as though it's all...

Dude. That's got nothing to do with love. That's just irresponsible. How about avoiding getting someone pregnant or spreading a STD regardless of whether you love them or not?! Did you even read the OP? Cus it seems like you just talked about yourself... It's getting a bit boring now.

My difficulty is that they are so close-minded. I would love to explain to them what I believe. I've tried to in some aspects but I just get accused of being deceived by listening to others or reading the 'wrong things'. The Bible is their absolute truth and the blinkers are on. They ask me why...

Welcome fellow Brit!! My experience is extremely limited haha so I won't be much help but I've seen a fair few Brits pop up here which is actually really encouraging society wise!

Not a clue either...I ask my husband when he comes home if he had a good time and he generally says yes. That's about the extent of it! I don't feel bitter about the church really. I just think it's incredibly misguided and information has been warped over such a long time. It's so interesting...

Thank you everyone for your input. I can't reply to every point individually. To be honest, since I've left the church and started accepting who I am, my marriage is improving. And what Karen said is what I want, I just want freedom. Freedom to be me and believe what I want to believe. I've...

When in relationships I have always struggled with having feelings for other guys. I've been married for over 7 years now and tried my very best to just ignore those feelings until someone came along who was very difficult to ignore. When trying to get my head around all of this and figure out...

That's what bothers me the most about 'typical' relationships in our society. Especially those linked to religion.

I just asked him how he can act normal after the discussion we had yesterday about counselling and divorce and he said "I love you, and that surpasses anything". So there is hope for us yet.

He is acting like we didn't even have this conversation. I guess I'll start looking for a counsellor. I'm leaning towards getting out of this poly closet sooner rather than later just to get this all out the way. I don't want to go through counselling and then be like "oh by the way...there's...

Thank you everyone. I'll stick to this thread right now and when I am out of the poly-closet I'll start a blog on here then. Had my first real discussion with my husband about the leaving church stuff. He has avoided it so far. He seems to think I've only left because of feeling disappointment...

I'm glad to hear it and I appreciate it :) Maybe I should start a blog haha

Lol you make it feel like Facebook ;)

Yes I understand your point of view. I've been wondering on the timing of it all. I've written a draft of the letter (I will struggle to articulate myself otherwise...) and I wonder if it's too soon since leaving church. I get the impression they're all waiting for me to come to my senses and...

Thanks for asking Kdt. I am feeling fully secure in my decision to leave the church. I went to a birthday party for one of my church friends at the weekend and it was good fun. Lots of people came to give me hugs and tell me they missed me. I told them I missed them too but that was it. One of...

Nice to see more Brits here, welcome and I'm sure you'll find this haven useful. I have!

I'm moving to Canada... Pyjamas every day? Yes please!