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Hello All, I was here months ago and shared my story. Here is a recap of the original posting: I’m 38F and he is 45M and we are married. Both have kids from previous divorces. I have had one previous poly experience (I was a couple’s unicorn and when it went bad, they closed ranks on me and cut...

Well, he hopes to find a woman who is a good fit for him/me/our family and then see where it goes. I think he will have an easy time finding a woman, he is very handsome and smart and charming. I don't know what will happen. I'll probably just try to find a side boyfriend to keep me busy or...

Update to original post Hello All, Well, we have spent the time since I first posted having very good, deep, open conversations. We are working with a poly-friendly therapist I really like. I've read so many places that simply by having the "poly" conversation, relationships can be forever...

Hi Kevin, Thanks so much for your post. He will not agree to pure monogamy with me. He will agree to a V, even on a schedule, so that he and I can preserve our marriage and major decision making roles. One thing that I was/am surprised by is how hurt he has felt because I haven't "trusted...

Tin, Oh, wow. Very good examples of "missing" things that you don't even know... This helped. Thank you! Elizabeth

Hi Seasoned, He is ok with doing a V instead of a triad. And he is even okay with doing a schedule like you proposed. He is actually really, really willing to bend on a bunch of issues. Slow progress... Thanks, Elizabeth

--Good call, Vin - we did discuss it and at the time it was one of a number of crazy, cool, exciting, sexy, different, adventurous things we might consider later in life. Our mistake was not really fleshing out what was a thought, a preference, and a need.

Hello All! After lurking for about a month, I’m finally ready to ask for some opinions on my dilemma! I’m (38F) married to J (47M). We are on our 2nd marriage and have a blended family of 5 school-aged kids, plus a dog. We’ve been together for 2 years. I’m his owned, collared submissive and...