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Thanks, Evie. ❤️

Sigh: after pulling back a bit over the past week or so, Maple broke up with me today. She's not in a place to be in a relationship, and doesn't think she will be for a long time. Meanwhile, am in the midst of making first date plans with a couple other people. Am tempted to vanish into thin...

Just want to say I feel you on this one. ✊

Seeing your husband as a "person" instead of as "your penis" 🤮 would probably establish a better foundation for a long-term relationship with both him and another person.

At last the metaphorical rubber meets the proverbial road in my experience of polyamory: Maple went on a date with someone new. She checked in with me first, to see how the idea made me feel, and I said I felt fine. And I mostly did, aside from some fairly primitive rejection/abandonment...

It's this: https://www.multiamory.com/radar

An interesting dichotomy. I wonder why?

I lean "Complete". I'm not really interested in seeking new relationships for the purpose of filling a "lack" (at least, not right now I'm not). I want connections of whatever kind for their own sake. Among other things, what led to the end of my last monogamous relationship was making...

Welcome. 👋

These sorts of takes on conventional relationships are so nuts when seen from outside. Like reading posts from twentysomethings on /r/relationship_advice. The 2020s are not turning out quite as progressive as I'd hoped. 😜

I'd echo this. Having seen the earlier parts of your thread, and if you'll pardon my saying so, SquishyHusk—it does indeed seem like you and your wife were having problems in your relationship and moving Pumpkin into your house was at least in part a way to alleviate them. Like, this wasn't...

With respect, if what you want is to pursue a polyamorous relationship, it doesn't sound like you'll be doing it with these two people. It sounds like both of them want to have an exclusive relationship with you.

They definitely come across as more of, "This is how you should/should not do things," to the extent I can predict what the responses to most of the posts will be. Then again, most of the posts are people asking about the same half dozen situations over and over again; it's a little less of a...

I spend a lot of time on that subreddit, and it seems like there's a group of, say, a dozen people responsible for, say, 99.9% of all the replies. So it's not like they are The Voice of Polyamory; they're just a handful of people with strong opinions. Just like here. ;)

I sort of see what you're getting at... but, then again, do you equate imagining a threesome with having a threesome? That starts to get a bit solipsistic (in the philosophical sense of the word!)

Do you mean you're surprised they can meet any relational need, or specifically polyamorous needs?

A lightbulb "needs" electricity in order to remain illuminated. A human being "needs" a sense of security and emotional connection to be happy (at least, for the purposes of this example). But I wouldn't consider those two uses of the word "needs" to be equivalent—at least, not in an ethical...

So many of the discussions I see about polyamorous relationships, including this one, have this tendency to veer away from the dynamics of the relationship towards whether or not the English word "polyamory" may be applied to the relationship. Feels like the Bikeshed Effect to me: We can't...

Yeah, the original thread (the part interesting to me, anyway) was more about: do the ethics that we associate with healthy polyamorous relationships apply to AI "partners"? It's certainly true that you can get some of your emotional needs met by a computer program that generates textual...

I'm not gonna pretend I don't wish I had seen them finally fly off the handle before they pressed the big red button. :LOL: