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Boundaries are by definition, ultimatums. Boundaries are good things to have because they say to the other person, this is what I will tolerate and this is what I will not. They are the essence of respecting yourself as a person. Forgiveness is the mechanism that allows a person who has...

All poly relationships at their core are just a bunch of dyads happening at the same time. And like flowers, if each one is not properly cultivated and cared for, it tends to whither and die. That's why I think "couple"-based relationships can be difficult.

Have you asked for more time? The best way to get needs met is to ask. If they aren't able to make more time for you, then you will need to put yourself out there, not necessarily to look for someone else, rather to involve yourself in things you are passionate about. This does two things: it...

If the talks are long and only one person is speaking, it's not a discussion, it's a monologue. It sounds like she is shutting down and I suspect it's not due to her upbringing. The best resource I know for learning how to communicate is a book titled Nonviolent Communication by Rosenberg...

In my experience, NRE tends to rekindle passion in current relationships. The feel good chemicals spill over and everyone benefits. Ymmv.

Yes, thank you for asking. Decompressing and clipping nerves for occipital neuralgia to hopefully alleviate the constant migraine she's been having. The three of us are recovering at a hotel before heading home tomorrow. As for me, I travel a lot for my job and it's a source of comfort for me...

Sheila and I just celebrated 5 years and she's been with John about 4. It's been largely drama free. In fact, he and I are in the waiting room waiting for her to get out of surgery right now.

If you hold back in communicating your needs, then you are not being fully honest, or lying by omission. Communicating has nothing to to with selfishness.

Highly recommend the book Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life by Rosenburg. Vastly improved the way I communicate with Sheila, and everyone.

Emotions are never wrong or stupid. They just are. If you are insecure then you need to say as much and ask them for reassurance. You also need to explain what that reassurance looks like for you. Its all part of the give and take of a relationship.

Good luck! Ask for what you want and stand your ground.

It depends on the guy. Generally speaking I would expect if a guy is a purveyor of polyamory he's not going to mind being approached by a woman. For me, one of the most liberating things about polyamory is that we get to make our own rules. As long as there is open and honest communication...

Define "mostly fine". If the relationship is not solid, then adding more people will not fix it. If the relationship is solid, then adding people can enrich your life as no one can be all things to another.

1. You're being honest with your feelings, which is good. 2. Controlling others' actions to manage your insecurities is generally not a good idea. 3. Jealousy is either a phobic response, or it is a warning that something is wrong with the relationship. Only you can determine which it is...

I'm a guy and I can't speak for others, but I tend to go head over heels at the beginning of a relationship. It's quite a departure from my normal emotional state.

I am going to take what is probably an unpopular position... If your boyfriend wants to be a grown up and live life the way he wants to and not have to answer to his parents, then he needs to grow up and take responsibility for his life. That means, he needs to quit eating their food, quit...

Sometimes you don't know what you don't know until it happens. Kudos to you both for working through it.

Is this relationship preventing you from finding what you want?

OKC has a really interesting app that will tell you which picture of yours is the best received demographically. I was surprised by its suggestion for me. I believe you don't even have to post the pictures to your account, if you don't want to. Edit: I found it helpful, with me being an ogre...

I am resurrecting this thread because I have a practicality question. I am in a position where my marriage may need to become an LDR for some length of time (3-5 years). Kids' ages at home age range from 17 to 12. I am a big believer in family/communal meals. If it does come to pass, I'm...