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I live in the US. I cook a few times a week, mostly on the weekends. I bake every week.

I understand how you are very angry at this woman for saying cruel things about you, but what you need to realize is that she got ALL her information from your husband! She doesn't even KNOW you! Yes, I would have my back up about my partner choosing to be with someone who speaks so...

I agree with this completely. I had earlier stated that it seems the OP will need to make a choice, but that things cannot go on the way they are. She should feel perfectly within her rights to end her marriage, even though that may be hard for her. Neither the OP, her husband, or the...

*Waves hand* I actually disagreed with the comments against the husband being made in this thread. It was just a small post, though. It seems that the husband is sometimes saying he *wants* Gemma to have sex with her boyfriend, which is a mixed signal indeed. However, actions are much louder...

No, you are not the bad guy here. It was a scenario of "relationship broken; add more people." As you can see, that doesn't work. You don't necessarily need to give up your boyfriend, but I would definitely stay OUT of the drama.

It seems to me that your husband only agreed to open up the relationship because he was scared of losing you. Your only choices are to close the relationship or leave your husband. I don't believe his consent was ever a "joyous yes." I don't understand all the negativity towards the...

Luna, here is where I am coming from on this. I DO agree that pointing out harmful behaviors could be a sign of something more lying underneath can be very useful. For example, if a poster said that his/her OP was trying to control their interactions with their family and friends, that would...

Irrational thinking doesn't land you in the morgue. I am COMPLETELY with Luna and the others on this. Violence doesn't tend to be a "one-off" thing. Once someone knows they can get away with it, the next time it becomes easier to go there. . . then easier. It really is a Pandora's Box...

I am VERY glad you were able to reassert your boundaries in a meaningful way and that George stood up for you! Gina behaved terribly.

I agree with the sex therapist idea, if your husband is willing. I know that he is doing some things that are "unfair," but he has to be going through Hell, thinking that he isn't "man enough" for you.

Why is it not enough to just say that these behaviors are NOT OKAY, and suggest that these behaviors may not change and the person who is on the receiving end of this poor treatment is justified in believing they are within their rights to take steps to end the behavior? Either by breaking up...

I am very sorry, Luna. Will keep you in my thoughts.

Well done! Sounds like everything went as you had hoped! You are right; you are feeling "guilty" about Gina for no reason. You have done nothing wrong. Just continue being respectful to their relationship, but firm with your boundaries.

I don't think it's helpful to try to diagnose someone over the internet, especially seeing as that you have never met the person. Regardless of whether or not Matt is Borderline is not the issue, and it's not right to try to label HIM; this board is not chock-ful of mental health...

With this attitude of wanting to be "primary," while the man in question is still married, I don't think this is the situation for you. It will end up with you accepting having to "share" this guy and you will do everything in your power to break them up because it's not going to be enough for...

Thanks, KC!

You need to call a suicide hotline RIGHT NOW. Arrange for your kids to be taken care of for three days while you get evaluated. Tell their father that he has to step up. You really need to do this.

Spork, that's TOO funny. About a month ago, I heard my 15-year-old stepson play something on his trombone; it caught my ear and sure enough it was "Africa." I asked him, "How do you even KNOW that song?" and he said everyone knew it. I have found another song that kids seem to inexplicably...

Does your wife know anything about this other woman? If she doesn't, this isn't poly; it's cheating. You have already met this woman, regardless if anything "happened" or not.

Well, I'm glad you got something out of it. I think that maybe the antagonism stems from the fact that your relationship structure is basically a stereotype that so many polyAMOROUS people are fighting against. Polyamory, from the six years I have spent on here, is about behaving in a...