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Yeah, and I only have the one relationship right now. I've been trying to do the dating thing, and nobody is making my heart flutter and my bits tingle the way it does with my partner. One guy came close, then bolted (long story). So Pisces is my only. And I still am unsure if I am truly poly. I...

Ugh! That sounds awful! How/why did you put up with that, if you don't mind the question? I don't know how much more of this sort of drama I can take. And I hear you on bad timing - she has had the bad timing that way before too. Thankfully it was *after* our one year anniversary that happened...

Thank you for your thoughts and support, Bobbi :) She and I have not been in contact since last October, since they got back from Europe. She refused to have anything to do with me, and so I accepted that. Their rollercoaster drama *does* affect my relationship with him (like him needing me to...

Update on this situation: They haven't broken up. She tried to burn things all down. Not surprised. I don't have details at this point. Don't think I want to know. The level of drama on that side is...unfortunate. Their cancelled weekend together is now back in, albeit with some big...

Thank you, Kevin. Good ideas. :) I will say that it has been very hard to not communicate with him though. I keep having to stop myself... So I make myself busy instead.

Hello all, Some of you have been following my situation with my partner Pisces and his other partner Blue. Last night he sent me a message saying: "I'm pretty sure Blue and I just broke up. Please don't contact me for a few days." Of course, I am so saddened for him. I don't know the details...

I feel the exact same on both accounts - thank you! :-)

No, he doesn't, and I've suggested it more than once. She does and I do, but he currently doesn't. He doesn't share info about her side to vent, but to inform. But as you have all suggested, this needs to be paused for the foreseeable future, and I will be saying so when I see him in person this...

It's not disdain, it's frustration. I have compassion, but am also frustrated about the bleeding-over. It's exhausting. I'm going to speak to my partner this weekend about this.

We have a shared Google calendar that Pisces will sometimes put events on, which Blue and I can both see. And on Fet, yes, we can RSVP there too, which is where I meant. Lately, if Pisces has RSVPed to an event and Blue sees it and knows it's likely one that he is going to with me, over on the...

Yup, I have thought that very thing myself! What he and I have is pretty amazing, so I'm not thinking to walk away at this point. I have let him know what my boundaries are, and what I will put up with for only so long. He knows he can't take me for granted on all of this forever. Parallel poly...

Thanks. It's been hard for me, but really hard for my guy Pisces. I have been shaking my head at this situation, while also trying to have compassion for her struggles with her mental health. I am trying to just stay out of it, most of the time. Hopefully I've answered about the parallel poly...

It's actually not me that cares too much about this, as far as having an active friendship with her. When we started out, I offered her a friendly meta situation because of what our guy, Pisces, and she told me. Pisces' ex wife was very controlling and refused to have anything to do with his...

Hello all! Happy New year! I hope you are all well. It’s been a while since I’ve posted. There are quite a few things going on with my partner (our relationship) and my meta (their relationship), and her “dealings” with me, for those who have read my previous threads (and all the drama...

Agreed. But threatened wives will sometimes ultimatum, and their husbands give in, to "save the family". Sigh. These two situations were with newly opened couples who really shouldn't have gone into poly at all, or went into it by force, because of a crush, or "I'm bored," and likely not for the...

I agree, but vetoes can/do happen. I’ve had it happen to me twice by married men. It sucks.

Unless this couple has a hierarchy/couple-privilege/veto power, I don't think the OP can demand they break up, yeah? That doesn't seem ethical unless it's part of an arrangement made by the married couple ahead of time.

Metamour drama is so unfortunate. I don't have advice on this other than to say that I have (and am still, in a way) dealing with metamour drama myself, so I get it. It's tough. Hopefully you have external support for yourself too, like friends/family/a therapist/this forum to go to? Hugs!

My partner and I have both agreed that we will not have penetrative sex with another person 24hours or so before we have scheduled time together. We can do other sexually intimate things with that person in that day before though, so that other person will still enjoy intimacy with the one of us...

Not necessarily. I shower at least twice in between sex with men, and don't have sex with different men within 24 hours of each other, but if my male partner ejaculates in me, even with showering, the ejaculate can take up to two to three days to come back out (sorry for the TMI, but that's how...