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Heya, Jet! It’s good to hear you’re getting more comfortable, and that you have partners who are proud to be with you. That’s the gold standard, in my opinion! I am guessing some of your previous relationships were complicated by some partners being closeted? What kind of poly do you want, now...

Things that make it work in my experience include everyone being friends, who are invested in each other’s success to some degree. After all, in your car-loaning scenario, if I loaned my (only) car to one partner, it might have a negative impact on my other partner’s schedule for the day; one...

Seconding the recommendations of Emily Nagoski’s book Come As You Are and the work of Amy Jo Goddard (and adding that I got a lot out of her book, Woman On Fire). Congratulations on starting this journey!

Today is RacingSnail’s and my first anniversary!!! Yay!! Given the fuzzy nature of our LDR email romancing last year, we had a whole week or so of dates to pick from, so like the geeks we are we let a random number generator pick the specific date of our anniversary. :D He’s gonna call me...

Thanks, TLynneP! I’m trying out some short stories in the ‘paranoramal romance’ genre right now. The research is ongoing! ;)

Hello and welcome! I have a long-distance partner in the SLC area. Don’t know if you ever use Facebook, but the Utah Polyamory Society FB group is filled with some of the nicest folks. Hope you find some good advice here!

I have a new friend! I’m not even going to call it long distance, because I’m expecting it to stay all online (so really, he’s as close as my pocket, right?) but bathing in mutual admiration and doing the getting-to-know-you dance is really perking me up. Captain Jack and I have a *lot* in...

Oh, golly. Feeling all the feels today because I got a thank-you note for the birthday present I sent by surprise to RacingSnail’s niece. With pictures of her li’l adorable just-turned-one year old self playing with the toys we handed down that used to belong to my kiddo. Putting the family...

The Distance December makes the distance harder. RacingSnail is in the midst of putting in 111 hours of overtime between Thanksgiving and Christmas, and as you might imagine, I’m not hearing from him as much. Last year we were only just starting our relationship at this time. I was quietly...

Just a few thoughts. A sexually open relationship that involves only that, not the possibility of building emotional relationships with additional partners is certainly non-monogamy, but not really polyamory. Open relationship would cover it pretty well. It is certainly possible to have an...

I once transitioned a relationship successfully, but the circumstances were different from yours. Once upon a time, about nine years ago, my girlfriend MightyCupcake came to me to have a serious conversation. She and I had been in a romantic relationship for about three years at this point. We...

I’m grateful for all my dear ones banding together to support me through the medical procedure I had today. RacingSnail called and texted and sent me a sweet selfie, MightyCupcake texted and commiserated and is coming over for dinner and tv tonight while I recover, and MonkeyMan took over a...

I have a small blog here on the forums, though I mainly started it to have a place to write out my backstory and think through current relationship events ‘out loud’ as it were. On my personal Wordpress blog (linked below) I have written three posts/essays so far about polyamory, likely more to...

Glad you bumped this thread, Kelstar! It was a great read for me, as RacingSnail and I have just this kind of mismatch in our relationship. (He’s the slow burn, I’m bringing the fireworks.) I’m really quite proud of how we’ve been able to be honest with each other every step of the way, and make...

Welcome, Dee!

Spent Thanksgiving at home this year, feasting with MonkeyMan, our kiddo, MightyCupcake, and Dynamo. It was purely delightful. I’m grateful for a husband who did 3/4 of the cooking, a kid who decorated our table with flair, a best friend who makes an *amazing* mince pie, and a friend who engages...

Thanks, Karen! That really makes my day. :)

Welcome, Layne! Delightful to encounter a fellow writer and poet. :)

Sure, habibtig. I think it was later the same day, he followed up with a little, ‘I hear you and mommy talked about this earlier, do you have any questions for me’ kind of a thing. We both like to emphasize our open-door policy on further questions! But I really strive to normalize things with...

Welcome, Ferrin, and congratulations on your new situation! The way you and your wife have been open from the start but had a long spell on not taking advantage of it really resonates for me—there’s a lot of similarity to parts of my story. I hope you find that the transition into...