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Maybe, but that's YOUR opinion. What you see on a dating profile tells you not much about personality or who the person really is. She could be lovely, but have no connection with your partner. She may be shallow, unable to have a real conversation, rude to service people, have a short fuse, or...

Im an ENFJ and simply cannot handle taking on others emotions plus my own when people are arguing in front of me, especially if I'm not part of the argument. I feel person one's feelings, person two's feelings, and my own. Add to that, I'm uncomfortable in the situation, might not like the way...

Welcome to the world of trying to date women. Once I got on the apps I saw what my partner was talking about. They don't respond at all. I find if you want to date women you need to click with them in the wild. Meetup groups, book clubs or whatever interests you have are good places to start.

This isn't a poly problem. It's a group sex problem. You are learning that it's just not fun for you, if not harmful to your relationship, because you disconnect. If you continue doing this for your partner, you will eventually leave. You need to let your partner know how this makes you feel...

But your agreement has. It doesn't matter what you feel inside, what matters is your agreement. Right now you are monogamous. You cannot force your partner to be poly. If you want poly and your partner wants monogamy then you are incompatible. You cannot manipulate or justify away anything. You...

The old days of chat rooms is over. The best you can find is forums on specific topics. Maybe you can find something in discord or kik

I have ended every relationship where I felt I loved them more than they loved me (or vice versa), mono or poly. Find partners where you are on the same page. Those are the ones that last and make you happy. Even if the love is little, it's great when you both feel the same way.

Maybe maybe not...but I don't see it as the issue. The issue is, you are in a LD relationship that doesn't have access everyone else does. I'll never do LD for this reason. You'll never get the time and attention you need. If you are cool with hooking up when you visit but not developing...

Can you tell us the difference between traditional poly and new poly? I've never heard these terms before so knowing what you mean is helpful.

Why would you want to be with a person who makes you feel that way? You are young. You were HS sweethearts, which means you got together before the end of your 20s, a time when you find yourself, complete your brain development and begin to really learn what you want. You have so much life left...

I've had partners use my MH issues in the past against me in a way that was manipulative and gaslighting. Please ensure that isn't happening here.

It's hard to have mental health issues while dealing with a not-so-great situation. It's easy to blame the MH issues for the problem. People often don't consider that the situation actually might be exacerbating the MH issues, if not causing them. Please consider that as you meet with your...

I'd be very cautious and keep your eyes open. Learn about unicorn hunting and how the new person could be treated and keep your eyes open and be able to advocate for yourself. The chances of UH situation lasting are so very slim, but it can rarely happen. It takes a breakdown of the original...

I don't know your history, but any time someone says "I've joined a couple" or "We have found our third," we all know where it's going to end. In addition to triad, look up unicorn hunters. That's what they are.

He might end things temporarily for you but he will forever resent you for it and blame you. This will be your life if you stay. Your marriage is over. Let him and J be whatever together and you leave to find yourself again, work through all the trauma this relationship has caused, and find...

I'd like to piggyback on what GG said. If this is abusive or not, I'd recommend therapy to work on finding your voice and establishing boundaries. Phones have passwords. Why did you give it to him? When he violated your privacy, did you change it? Does he insist on having access? It's okay for...

It can be undone, but I know people who have been poly for a decade that still have issues pop up. I think dating others, and experiencing love with another having zero effect on the love you feel for your long-term partner is mind blowing. The relationships stand on their own. If one ends, it's...

Have I seen it happen? Yes. But it's so rare, I wouldn't count on it being you. You are still young. You have a lot of relationships left in your life. You will grow and learn. It takes a ton of learning to really know what you want and don't want. Go out and be poly, I say. The more experience...

Mono people have to deal with crushes all the time. Just because you choose monogamy doesn't mean crushes don't happen. It just means you don't act on them. That being said, being away 8+ months is hard. And having a crush on your flatmate is a disaster waiting to happen. If you care about your...

Don't be thinking that, because you'll kick yourself when you find out you are wrong. Poly is hard and it's work for BOTH partners. The work is different for each. The saying goes, "Poly is not about being comfortable dating multiple people, it's about being comfortable with your partner dating...