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My first bit of advice - tread very carefully here! In my line of work confidentiality breaches are taken very, very seriously. (As in instant termination and loss of professional licensing! In addition to multi-million dollar lawsuits and potentially federal investigation if the employer...

We have a king size bed but have separate covers even when there is only 2 people (and a 90# Mastiff - and a few smaller ones if we are dog-sitting) in the bed. I am a notorious bed/covers/pillows hog - although my new weighted blankets have really helped. We also have a number of types of gel...

I would recommend an asymmetrical combination or the person in the middle (if you are 3) will keep falling into the crevasse where the two beds meet (I speak from experience!). This also allows one person to have a harder or softer mattress if the other two prefer something different. Or can...

I was going to do one of those massive multi-post-quote replies - but my concentration isn't up to it ...so this may be a bit choppy!:rolleyes: As a person (female) who doesn't particularly care about anniversaries and "special" days ALL of the above seems super-stress-y and unnecessary...

This. I would advise against marrying (perhaps even living with or staying with) someone with the expectation that they are going to change. People can (and do) grow and change - but that has to come from within themselves (and, largely, FOR themselves). My boys are both lazy slackers (with...

I am surprised that you are interpreting anything that has been posted as "advocating holding finances over a partner as a means to control their behavior". A set budget is the one that you negotiate, outlining how the household finances are handled. Which money is "his", which money is...

I am sorry to hear that this is where your marriage has come to rest but glad to hear that you are in a place of, relative, stability for now. I (an internet stranger) would encourage you to continue to maintain your “exit strategy”, as your contentment in your current situation may wane...

Feeling you on the teeth grinding/nightguard thing - I an terrible at wearing my nightguard and my dentist has a fit every visit at how much I have lost (I never had crowns but big fillings in my back molars). I've tried a couple of night guards that fit on my top teeth but, something away that...

Welcome! Glad you have found us! Feel free to read, comment, blog...whatever strikes your fancy. Congratulations on your upcoming degree :) JaneQ

Speaking on the topic of Poly in the News - I just ran across the whole Katie Hill scandal, which I had (unsurprisingly) managed to miss! Guess I can never run for political office! :eek:

PA is doing a degree of phased loosening of restrictions. the NorthWest and NorthCentral regions went "Yellow" already. And another group of more rural counties (including mine) is going "Yellow" on Friday. Most people seem to be content to hunker down and just grumble about when this is all...

Glad to have you! I, too, am not a frequenter of FakeBook and have greatly appreciated this forum. (And I find it interesting that your UserName is very similar to one which I use on a different site.) I am curious as to why you feel that these are mutually exclusive? We tend to be very KTP...

Hello, and welcome! Glad to have you aboard! Of course - it is perfectly natural to look for people who are in similar situations to hear about how they have handled things. For instance, when I started here I was looking for other people who were cohabitating with more than one...

I'll be honest - this is pretty much my experience as well (I wrote about some of it in my old post Threesomes - a PlayBook). My boys are both "straight but not narrow" and aren't afraid of having another penis in the game if it comes up (:p) - but they don't engage sexually with each other...

Re: AMA (Advanced Maternal Age - which is defined as a woman who will deliver at age 35 or greater) These pregnancies, statistically, are considered "higher risk" - but this is based on statistics that don't necessarily apply to an individual person - just to the demographic as a whole. So, for...

As a person who doesn't like to "people" when I am not doing well, I think that this is actually a fine way to give them space while showing that you care. For instance, I am NOT (NOT!) a morning person and if Dude is up and wants to be all loving and pep-talky in the morning I get SOOO vexed...

Oh, wow! This is seriously the most asinine thing that I have seen in a long, long time (including the Bad Orange Man's press briefings). P.S. (spoiler alert) apparently HIV does not cause AIDS, and it's pretty much downhill from there! :eek:

Vicki - I am sorry that you are hurting. It sounds like what Mags is saying is helping a bit, so I would just like to add a few comments, in case it helps. (Feel free to disregard!) My Dude does NOT understand why MrS and I are together (and have been for 27 years)...because we don't have sex...

I agree of most of what you wrote Vinsanity - but, these two ideas struck me as ...problematic? Or at least deserving of closer scrutiny. One of MrS's "mock rules" (back when we started and still had "rules") was - "No anal with him if you won't do anal with me." It's a "mock rule" because -...

I was posting in Petunia's blog, and (as usual) it got too long! So, here's the rest of what I was going to say re: the hospital system that I work for: Now, to be fair, they have been really trying to help us out - and the donations from our community have been generous (snacks, meals...