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On a different note - Bluebird's exciting new housing and moving news motivated me to take initial steps to get things rolling around Forever Home! We are in the process of arranging to get most of our windows and a four-panel sliding glass door replaced. I am anticipating that it will be a...

Thank you! Good to see you again! Currently all is quiet on the Waif front. Cycle: she came here and stayed until she ran out of suboxone, then admitted to hospital to detox from alcohol, then went home with abuser....no word since (MrS gave her another "safe"phone - she doesn't know where she...

For 10 years I was in a live-in relationship with my husband and his best friend (later my boyfriend) but our order of relationship forming would have been different than yours. I had already been with my husband for 15 or so years when he became friends with Dude. They were friends for about...

ohhh... interesting!

Do you actually WANT to find someone for yourself though? It is possible to "be okay with it" without having to pull someone else into the mix. Including other people makes things more complicated - so, my advice is to not do it if you aren't excited about the the idea! Jealousy and guilt can...

That's wonderful! Glad that you had a great day!

Interesting - I have been journaling, i.e. writing things out, here and then NOT posting said writings to my blog.

Hello and welcome! Words are tricky things. Equal does not mean Fair (and vice versa) {if one of you lovely forum peeps could put up the slide for me...you know? the cartoon with the fence and the boxes? :)) She probably doesn't actually mean that she loves you "equally" i.e. the same. But...

The way I recall it: "Relationship broken, add more people" = recipe for disaster. Is not having sex with an asexual spouse necessarily an "already-troubled situation"? There have been times in my life when it was a problem-- such as when I was trying to conceive. There were times when my...

Woo-the-fuck-hoo!!! Congratulations!

The set-up that you are envisioning of having a "functional sex" person, while maintaining your relationship with an asexual spouse sounds very much like my arrangement with MrClean and MrS. Mags, however, is correct-- most people seem to need a lot of rules and parameters to make this sort of...

I don't know how the BDSM aspect changes things (since I am largely vanilla) but, at the poly level, my first response to you would be: "It depends on the circumstances under which you are meeting people." If I were at one of the local Meet-Ups for our alternative relationship group or a...

Update. Still maintaining my weight! Once I hit my goal weight I dropped back to the lowest dose. I did try to wean off, but the "hungry" came back (NO surprise - there is a reason that obesity is a chronic disease!) So I stay at the maintenence dose and if I drift above my goal weight then...

OK. I vented. It's okay, it's fine. NOT my project, NOT my problem. You all are free to comment - and I know that I can reasonably ask for accomodations to allow me to feel comfortable. DH(=dingedheartNOTdearhusband)) and I are cool. Mags - you Rock Awesome! yup. Whenever I fall into a...

It came with the house! It started out as an outdoor patio off of the kitchen - with double giant sliding glass storm doors. As various owners added on to the house it became a covered porch, then an enclosed sunroom - with another giant set of sliding glass doors into the backyard. Consisting...

So... my focus is figuring out how to tolerate things until they work out....I now sleep on an air mattress in the dogquarium. I have noise cancelling headphones to use if I don't want to hear their laughter. I can stay at the hospital or a friend's house if I don't want to be home (hasn't...

So... why is MrS doing this? Yes, he is a decent human, he wants to help people. But also, his best friend from high school married a woman who recently died from alcoholism at the age of 46. MrS talked to her a few days before she died and tried to convince her to take the advice of her...

Lather, rinse, repeat. Waif calls for help, MrS plays White Knight, she stays with us, goes back or goes into withdrawal...refuses rehab, goes back to abuser, etc. Her mom cares, has MrS on speed-dial...MrS convinces Waif to go stay with her parents, goes with her when possible, then she goes...

So, the active issue is Waif...a problematic interest of MrS... Backstory, when Dude was with us he befriended a guy at a music festival who lives very close to us (6 miles) - which is relevant because we live in a very rural area in the middle of very conservative nowhere so the likelihood of...

On a more poly-ish note (not really, since the interested parties (for the most part) are interested in cheating :cautious:) PrinZs - seriously the sexiest and most attractive person who has EVER been into me, I am dumbfounded that she would even give me the time of day (unfortunately very...