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Thank you, Kevin x

You’re very welcome, Peach - I just hope you’re ok. I started with ‘Ethical Slut’, which was a great introduction to the concept of non heteronormative relationship structures for me. Maybe start there 🙂

Hi Peach ☺️ I think it’s fair to put this guy on the ‘not a keeper’ pile. Of course, I wasn’t there to see how things were between you two, but it sounds like he isn’t worth any more grief from you. Firstly, please don’t think this type of behaviour represents polyamory. Every group has a loud...

Danger, danger Will Robinson. This isn’t a powder keg - it’s Cersei Lannister rigging the Sept with wildfire. I get your position, but turn it around for a sec and image your wife had some magical love that she carried a torch for showing up and claiming to want to play second fiddle opposite...

Had a conversation tonight (with husband) in which I said it feels like I’m caught in a holding pattern. He said that this obviously wasn’t going to go away, and if I feel like I’m stuck in a holding pattern then I need to do something about it. He also said if I was waiting for high fives and a...

At least you seem to get it. I personally find it concerning the number of people that seem to think there’s a supply of women out there seeking a couple to faithfully adore that will place them in a second tier position with no autonomy of their own.

Just caught up. What a rabbit hole (bad pun opportunity here, surely) you’ve all gone down 😐 Don’t compare. Just. Don’t. Comparisons only ever feed insecurities, whether to make you feel inferior or superficially superior. That’s so basic and dumb. Better off holding to the truth that: “My...

Hi Delta A couple of years ago, I too approached my husband wanting to look into ethical non monogamy- so there’s parallels here. The difference is that I didn’t have someone lined up that prompted the asking - I read ‘ethical slut’ and identified with the perspectives contained in the book. I...

At what point can we call the wife’s behaviour emotional blackmail? I don’t doubt she has serious things that she’s dealing with and in no way am trying to trivialise her talk of suicide, I’m just wondering at what point is it ok to turn around and call some of this manipulation?

Don’t tease my deluded optimism, she gets me in enough trouble as it is 🤣🤣🤣

There’s this guy who works at the bouldering gym I go to. Each day I come in and he’s working, we have this habit of chatting away for a good while at the counter as I sip my ordered coffee. The rapport is comfortable, easy and fun. After not seeing him for a while, I realised I missed those...

It’s interesting because you started out in an open, or fwb, relationship that continued to be open after the label upgraded. Out of curiosity, if you were to break up and become single again, would you eventually try again with someone new exclusively - or do you think you might return to...

Hi there I originally posted my introduction under ‘about me’ and now can’t remove it. Is there a work around?

Welcome. This response x 2. KindaNew: i read this after midnight last night (I’m in Australia) and was floored to read your situation. Sure, we’re only hearing one side - but even if half of what you’re describing is true, it sounds terrible. I don’t have practical experience being poly -...

T Great post script 😄

Please don’t try to impress us… What if you flipped the thinking and worked from there? What activities do you think you could genuinely enjoy where coming across a woman who’s also into that activity would be a win/win? E.g. I love indoor bouldering (rock climbing without a rope). I love the...

Our bodies and faces are shells that are animated into beauty by who we are x

I had a mini meltdown last night about it all which weirdly helped. He’d just stopped engaging with me full stop and I said I can’t do this anymore if this is how it’s going to be. He said he’s just afraid that this will lead to me leaving him. He agreed that my whole approach to this should be...

It sounds like the husband was miserable. Is that why your relationship ended?

For Valentine’s Day, my gift this year was to have a threesome, which he’s excited for. I’m not bi, but am happy to have that experience with him for him. We haven’t done it yet - but I was hoping it might give him some perspective and am a little annoyed that the silence on me being able to see...