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my 'vee' may be in spirit only, but I'd like to add my fourth here... especially as mine is in spirit because of the sheer respect i am showing my partner and the other I love.

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Thanks guys - Bella - I did not mean coming out as in making a large announcement and displaying it prominently, I simply meant that I would be open about it - i.e as in I read an interesting article that mentions or is about poly living I may want to link it (currently I do not)... and would...

It does help baby. and just as your last post triggered a sense of unease - so too has this one. I will contemplate and find what is bothering me about this and discuss it both with you and on this thread. I think for now, a large of degree of what is leaving me uneasy is the sense of...

more waffle and a possible issue... Have just been reading the 'coming out' thread pretty thoroughly... I have definite worries about the effect my telling the kids will have on them... but more to the point if I'm going to be out then I might as well be out fully. And that WILL cause problems...

It is a very good point and one WW and I discussed... I am working up to having the strength to make that cut... we will be doing it jointly when I am able to.

my response hehe... given all my various musings lately I would have expected a much different result :D glad to see my personal distress isn't having a huge effect on how I view my relationships :D

:D Very helpful thank you guys there are quite a lot of issues going on in my scenario - and i think this topic is a definite player... but not the major/only component... WW and I had a very deep conversation just after my last post on my blog... and sorted through some major trust factors...

well... WW read the thread, he is now up to date with where I am. and seems to have drawn his own conclusions as to what is going on here for me. He has been processing, just not in here... and not to the extent I would appreciate. His focus has been on the disasters and trauma going on around...

For myself - it's easy... (accepting it is another thing entirely) I love my fiance and am committed to him in every way... I also love his best friend and wish I could have the same with him... at the same time. _____________________________________ have you considered being upfront with...

Without rehashing my situation, too much, I want to ask a question... long story short, I fell in love with my fiance's best friend, who semi-admitted that he felt the same, and abruptly left the playing field. since that time, there has been brushes of contact, but nothing concrete or solid...

I think in axlfreak's original thread it is discussed that her husband wants to move his gf in, despite her having her own gf and live-in situation. And I think there were pregnancy scares and things too, yes? Very fast-moving situation, I believe it is only 2-3 months into the relationship...

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not to be a misery guts - but I am still hurting/ yearning/ internally screaming in pain... going on 6 months now.. but mine was also not my decision... Given that it WAS your choice, it will probably be easier for you. At least I will hope it is... hugs to you my friend... you are NOT alone

hugs....

crying out the pain... (lots of self pity - but i had to get it out) Soooo.... my suckiness at not squashing myself down has reached new levels... not really... I just am so used to putting everybody elses needs/wants before my own I appear to be somewhat incapable of even putting mine out...

I so hear you on this. Big hugs.

~me (my current facebook status)

Ditto - feel free to look through my thread - the heartbreak in this situation is still going on and on and on and on...

I have nothing but hugs to give at this point... and a question... At the end of the day... what is more important to you... your ongoing loving relationship with your wife... or being able to have sex with her? It may be that you need to remain separated for a little while longer while you...