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Hmmm... What do your partners get? I suspect if you score 2 and your partner scores 6 then that actually says quite a lot about the relationship. Actually, what do you guys feel a large score discrepancy says about a relationship?

Hi there. A warm welcome to the forums. Sounds like you want a triad where each of the 3 has a romantic connection to everyone in the triad. I personally think a triad can be very beautiful. I'm kinda new to polyamory as well, but I think the more experienced people on this forum have said in...

I don't get it Kevin. @Icesong: It was surprisingly hard to find data on bull semen. Found some kind of record bull selling semen at about £300 000 per year. I suddenly feel inadequate. @Kevin. Sorry Kevin. I don't get it.

Mags, your comment on male dolphins and dogs not only consenting but actually initiating sex made me chuckle :), but then made me think about what consent really means. A 14 year old girl hitting on her 40 year old teacher does not constitute consent in the court of law. I think as a society, we...

@Newtothis2017: I agree with not trying 'full on' polyamory when going into it from monogamy. What you say is one of the reasons I didn't quite like the book morethantwo when I first tried to read it whilst trying to become poly from a monogamy. Don't get me wrong, I think it's a great book (in...

@Icesong: Just to be controversial, what about first or cousin Incest, or adoptive brother/sister Incest?

I've been wondering lately about sex acts that used to be illegal, which are now legal in many countries around the globe and where this trend may go in the future. In particular, most people I know frown upon bestiality and incest but I wonder if my future kids will go, "Dad! You can't judge...

@ctf : I think consent has to be part of the definition, otherwise you might be defining non monogamy, which for some people, may include infidelity, swinging, friends with benefits, one night stands, casual sex, hooker sex and all the rest of it.

Hi there Poly1984, Welcome to the forums. I'm relatively new here myself but I've found that the more senior members tend to have a lot of good advice and deep insight into many situations. Given how new I am, I doubt there's much I can say that you haven't already experienced. However, I'll...

Almond milk. Who invented this stuff? It's awful.

I suspect that there may be a publication bias at work here, in that people with good scores are more likely to advertise their results online whilst those with poor scores are more likely to send me their results by private message and be embarrassed to publish it in this thread.

Hi Lifelover, Welcome to the forums and I wish your introduction to polyamory could have been happier than this. I'm relatively new to the concept of polyamory myself and usually agree with other posters here, but I'm going to try to offer you different advice to that given above. I believe...

@Polysnow. I think the opening poster, B as she wishes to be called, didn't mean sexual relations between the two females. I think she meant between her husband and his girlfriend. I was confused too, but B clarified this for me in a private correspondence.

All you happy folk with your zero scores. :) Talk about setting the bar high for the rest of us struggling folk! ;) Just to give others who aren't scoring perfectly some hope, in many private responses to me, people have admitted to scoring 'choppy waters' (mostly) and 'rough seas'. These would...

Hi Jackson, Galagirl seems to have helped reframe the perspective into something clearer. It sounds really helpful and im glad you seem to be finding it useful. I know you have a dozen questions floating around that probably need answered. One thing that I thought might help with these answers...

Hey Jackson, In reading what Magdlyn and DingedHeart have written, I think both are touching on the point that the NRE your wife is experiencing comes across as surprisingly out of proportion. She's not new to dating. Why is the NRE this time so disruptive? My personal opinion is that if you...

Hi there, not sure what to call you. I certainly don't want to refer to you as Silly. If you want to change your name, send a private message to imaginaryillusion I think (others can correct me if im wrong please). In my eyes, this is not poly. This is the continuation of an affair. The usual...

@CTF: if you're still in your edit window, you may want to throw in something about consensual in your definition. :)

Fourth question: Define polyamorous relationship in 15 words or less. Let me instead try for defining polyamory. Consensual non-monogamy limited in romantic scope only by the people involved in the romance. I feel there are problems with my attempt at a definition, amongst which would...

I find it mildly amusing thinking of your dom dentist saying, "open wide. This won't hurt a bit." ;)