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Selfishness is usually intermixed with taking the easy route. It's shitty behavior. I'm not impressed, at all.

My heart is pretty broken today. It's been a rough week. The summation of the week is, I had to drop my calculus class because I have to free up more time to spend with the kids. SourPea is having issues with school. Both are having issues with not having Mom enough. I spent most of today in...

monkeystyle, I'm not volleying. I am very strongly opposed to mistreating people, ESPECIALLY under circumstances like this. So I took a different route than suggested. But it seems to have had a major effect. I booked a flight to Kodiak, without notifying him in advance. I flew in for the...

I am making an effort to limit communication to email. Not sure how well that is going to work. But I do agree that engaging in ongoing verbal abuse is a bad choice on my part.

I was so hurt this morning/afternoon. The tears have been nonstop for days. After hours of him telling me AGAIN, with the addition this time of it being about karma and how I am causing the "train wreck" that is destroying "our whole life" and if I just altered my choice about having a FWB...

I have been systematically going through the house, cleaning, throwing away shit, organizing etc. I do a little bit every day. There's a lot of stuff that will have to be gotten rid of, a lot of things that need to be returned to whichever random person left them here etc. This morning I...

He messaged me this afternoon about finance stuff. But he had to throw out there that he assumed I was out having a date night last night because he messaged me and I didn't respond. (I didn't get the message.) I let him know that no, as a matter of fact, I wasn't out on a date, I was at home...

Yeah... He blew off counseling. I haven't bothered to bring it up. I blocked his number last night so he can't message me any more. He wants to blame. I wrote him an email saying that even if one or the other of us was wrong, it wasn't necessary for either of us to be cruel and vindictive. We...

When an ultimatum is laid down, by the nature of choices it is IMPOSSIBLE for the outcome to be the fault of only ONE party, because EITHER party could choose to cross the line. So when you say I chose xyz and that is why you walked away, it is ONLY TRUE if you chose to walk away because I chose...

Much like the mono community-some people take issue with it and some don't. I've had people who didn't give a rip and others who refused to have sex with anyone in our circle because I have herpes (none of my previous partners in poly have it).

Stupid-ass phone glitched after I spent 15 min typing. Sigh. I didn't bother with spellcheck, but I did know the meaning of the name. I still think it's fitting. When a part of you is stolen by someone, as her wings were, there are effects. The loss has an effect. The mistreatment by them has...

Too much to catch up. A few poignant remarks. Some cutting and hurtful. I'm not "wife" material. But fuck buddy-- hell, yes. At any rate, I watched Maleficent in December and it really cut me deep. It wasn't a GREAT movie, in my opinion. I think they could have done better, especially with...

If I waited for Maca's approval, I would die in a mono relationship. Because no one will ever meet his approval. That said, I think its important to be upfront and honest yes. I even think its preferable that all parties be agreeable. But realistically; I am my own person. If they don't...

I am stuck at this; Reality. Reality is we always and only have dependable control over ourself. Reality is that there is no "typically when people start a new relationship they do x." Therefore; we have to decide what level of risk we as individuals are willing to take and make it our...

Not drama free. Head home tomorrow. Hurting and disillusioned, angry and resentful. Each new verbal attack pushes me towards solo poly and relationship anarchy. Irony: SweetPea has been on an anarchist trip, talking incessantly about what is better or more right or more sensible or more...

IP and KDT, awesomely helpful posts. OP, I have never identified as a relationship anarchist, but after experiencing too much of what IP describes, I am on a pathway that leads in that direction. More and more frequently I identify with Marcus's and NYCindie's posts. I have found it very...

I HAVE experienced compersion. But it's rare. Fuck 'em. They obviously aren't ready for the likes of you dear. :)

I am cracking up laughing-but I totally agree!! I am currently sleeping with someone I'm no longer fucking and I'm fucking someone I almost never get the opportunity to sleep with. I am imagining telling my grandkids "oh they are sleeping" and then a few hours later telling them it's time to...

Packing up my laptop here in a few minutes. Tomorrow morning I fly out to Arizona for two weeks. I will have my laptop, but no idea how frequently I will be checking in on it. Aim to spend as much time as possible outside sucking up sunshine rays.

Drama-free works for me right now. It may not be the ideal, but it works. I'm ok with drama-free. :) Hope your holidays were nice, Kevin! I got to see an old friend yesterday for a short visit. He's returning back to your neck of the woods on Monday. Hopefully sometime soon I will be able to...