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Who is instigating all this specific dis inviting (wedding, the parties)? And with you dating R and M dating D, it seems there was a good bit of gossip mongering all around or they wouldn't have had so many preconceived notions I'd figure. What was the reason for R and D not dating any longer...

Oh call it a show of good faith for others. I've already come to my own conclusions. I don't care enough about out polying anyone to be civil in the face of sexual slavery. I'll leave that to you.

I'd like to see a photo of you and your staff atop your glorious island estate with you holding up a paper bearing today's date and a piece of paper with your username written on it. Toss in your GF and some of the kiddies as gravy.

The guy is trolling. He is amusing himself by playing a vulgar stereotype up so he can watch as everyone scrambles to defend views that support elitism and genetic superiority when he feigns persecution. In other words: how funny would it be to take a bunch of anything goes sexual idealists...

OMG the smell just keeps ripening.............and anything less than pretending to not smell it is rude when dealing with people who believe they are genetically predetermined to lord over others. Its so cultured to think this way yet somehow also so naive and deserving of a good coddling?

I don't rely on your income to survive so I'm likely not as malleable as you'd like. And once again; this isn't Evan's Place. Its public. I don't care if I get your time or responses anymore than I care about getting a postcard from yesterday's bin bag contents.

You are actively seeking poor people BECAUSE of the persuasion your money will have on them?!? I suspected as much but the gall to come out and admit it is stunning. Your GF isn't going to end up agreeing with you about your Harem Island fantasy because she changed her thinking. She'd be doing...

Try looking at it as choosing between skydiving and bungee jumping. Not much difference between either fear facing activity. Tell hubby all probably does = scary and what's that going to bring? and a whole lot of questions you don't look forward to answering. BUT Continuing on with an...

You should talk to your husband for sure. Its odd you would hide aspects of who you are from the person you're building a life with and then share those hidden things with others. Do you see how that sharing of secrets might create an atmosphere of attraction the way people who end up in affairs...

Ahhh, perhaps a bit of the ole "well this is what you wanted right? How you liking it now?" angle.

Take care to not make your fantasy the priority. You may have this image in your head of how it will be but the reality is you won't be in control of these people. They will need to be heard and respected and it can mean that not everything you fantasize about will be wanted by all of your...

It seems to all be set up with this notion of you know best for all involved. GF/soon to be wife? You mention her "ancient" culture and poor English standing in the way of your oh so much more enlightened poly dreams. A lot of things will need to be hashed out to come to some agreement between...

You might benefit from figuring out just how large you want this compound to be and how it would need to be set up, living arrangements and whatnot. Keep in mind that it won't just be your place if you are to be sincere about it. It will belong to all involved and need room to grow for the other...

Along the same lines as what Forrest's momma use to tell him: "Beautiful is as beautiful does" I'm sure your husband is proud of and finds beauty in you not betraying trust and cheating. Head up high where it belongs lady!

What I see here when you list the three scenarios your wife ended up not being supportive of, you've rolled it all up into one tangled ball rather than three separate and unique sets of circumstances and personality blends. It might help to remember that while your wife did not support these...

I can understand not wanting to, just wanted to remind you that you have options and sometimes the ones that would serve you best are the scariest and sad despite being the healthy course of action. Not remembering your options can add undue pressure and cause more anxiety than the actual issues...

Are you both monogamous to the person you share? It would explain a good deal. Two people expressing needs that conflict; who is to say which person's need is greater? It won't help to start pinning negative and accusatory motives like who is jealous and who is controlling. It could be seen...

No more like relationships are not a hostage situation. If this situation is one that only happens to a mono person, just like with other relationships they had with one person - they don't HAVE to stay in a relationship that isn't serving them well. They can move on. And I didn't think this had...

The situation being what it is, couldn't the GF find someone primary for herself? Being a married man's secondary doesn't mean the GF has to be mono to him if it doesn't provide what she needs to be satisfied.

Life guarantees no one a love/sex/romance partner. No matter how poly you were born so how much of a way you were born is it really? There are people who want only one partner but cannot find that right one partner. And if one could be born poly, and that means they are unable to prevent who...