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Thank you! I see some Summer reading lists here for sure.

D's (my husband's) answers 1. We had problems trusting each other early in our relationship. 0 2. Our relationship revolves around our children (or for childless couples, we disagree on whether or not to have children). 1 ("because how can it not") 3. My partner spends too much time away...

I was hoping to make a list of Novels, Films or T.V. series that show Polyamory. This idea was sparked by a member asking me how I learned about Polyamory and I'm fairly certain I first found examples of it in film. Jules Et Jim came to mind and She Came To Stay. I most recently saw an example...

Shaya, you figured out what I was trying to get into. I wanted to see the missteps. I wanted to know if I got anything "right" too. It is hopeful that you said I did the best I could without a theory of poly. That was nice to hear. I think what SoulSister and I have is beautiful. Her husband...

"Every poly resource you share with him sends him a message that you want J. Every relationship resource you read with him tells him you want him. " Doesn't it also say that I want my husband? Doesn't it say that I trust my husband and want him to understand me? I am afraid that every time I...

I wanted to clarify, that I think I could be happy in a relationship like this. I still worry that even this kind of relationship will leave me resentful. Dissatisfaction will result in acting out. In this scenario I would have to make different choices, do different things. I will have to...

Thank you for reading it and the compliment. My husband read this and looked at me and said "you are good". Pretty sure my heart exploded. SoulSister read it too and said she perceived everything very similarly to how I did. phew, right? Now I'm just gonna breathe for a little while.

I'm not sure how much of that resonates or is even helpful in my situation. One of the parts of poly that I enjoyed the most was not feeling like these feelings were wrong in some way. That there isn't something broken in me. It is very interesting though. Thank you for the links and thoughts.

Ok, I'll do that. Thanks for the pointer.

K and I Something I started picking apart yesterday is about my relationship with K. I have so far used it as a positive, like a "Hey, look we've been "doing" polyamory all long". I'd like to pick it apart, find out why it WASN’T polyamory. Here's the story of me (f,bi,married with kids) and...

I think I'm going to put this story, formatted better in my blog "One Mistake at at Time" so there's more context. I forum'd wrong today :P

I think I've been allover the place in this forum. I guess I should do one of those footers I see, for now though husband D, interest J, bff/former lover K. I will attach K and I's story here. I had it as a separate post. Yeah, we have a lot of unpacking to do. OPP is part of that. We are...

Yes! Do I miss the sex I had with my bff? I miss making out the most. Kissing and giggling. We were just getting into what I would call sex and still have a lot more to explore there. I'm still not very experienced when it comes to women. Once I identified "in love" feelings with her we hadn't...

I posted a separate thread called "How isn't this polyamory? (long read) I'd be ever so grateful for those helping me out in this thread would take a few moments there.

Are you reading my mind? Just yesterday I read a post on here that mentioned limerence and being unfamiliar with the word I looked it up and read an article that possibly you had linked in another post. Now I will definitely look more into it. The article mentioned love addiction and while that...

Attachments In the future it would be an easier read to be able to attach a file for long posts like this. So the format would be more clear. I'll learn how and where I can host my attachment. What attachments does the forum support? I tried a docx (didn't work) and my PDF was too big.

Something I started picking apart yesterday is about my relationship with SoulSister (formerly K)I have so far used it as a positive, like a "Hey, look we've been "doing" polyamory all long". I'd like to pick it apart, find out why it WASN’T polyamory. Here's the story of me (f,bi,married with...

Growth Spurts I feel like my journey has all been on the inside the past month. It's good, great maybe, but I'm starting to get worried that I'll outgrow my husband. It's a little worry right now, a mini worry. I was hoping that since we are away from home and have help with our kids that we...

Thankyou so much for taking the time to write these original posts Shaya. I really appreciate it.

I'm having an interesting shift in thinking. I love the sensitivity I have now to hierarchy. I'm noticing how many times we hold one person over the other, ex: Best Friend, One and Only... it doesn't end there. It comes up in casual conversation, more than once just yesterday. I'm guessing...