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So a few (3) months ago me and my ex girlfriend (Sarah) broke up. It was mostly mutual and when we parted ways we both expressed a desire for friendship. Since the break up we have has a few sporadic but neutral or positive interactions. This past week she asked me to lunch but then failed...

Honestly I'm getting the impression the poly is something ypu activily desire and could be happy with. But your at a hard point right now. It's common for women to have an easier time then men meeting others. But that doesn't mean that it's impossible to meet someone. I'm not sure what your...

He may be sorry, but do you forgive him?

I think that it might benefit you to establish and maintain emotional boundaries in your relationship with T. You need to establish what emotional support you are able to give happily. You also need to establish what you are willing to do in terms of poly, ex: share information, and what your...

After you happy? After your needs getting met in this relationship?

A distinct lack of information like that would definitely give me lots of feelings and be difficult for me so I'm not sure that would untimely help the situation. I feel like in someway that would be similar to pretending it's not happening. Cause I am going to have feelings if a new person gets...

If you value your relationship with your girlfriend I would drop it. Maybe persue poly later, but wait till you are over her sister. Maybe take some space from her family. Or avoid being alone with her til you get over her. If I knew one of my partners felt that way about one of my family...

Your bullets seem somewhat in line with my feelings atm. I don't feel I am outgrowing Jason tho. In fact I think we are very compatible and really do see a future with him in my life. He has expressed similar sentiments towards me. With the new person he doesn't see it as a Relationship. He...

I would love this. I'm so tired of poly drama. Sometimes it's hard to see the good things I get out of poly when there seems to be so much shit to work through constantly.

Yeah. But I think that's why it scares me. Because if it is something i want long term, I am scare that means the end of my relationship with Jason too. Because I highly doubt he would want that long term. (I'm not even sure if I do yet). On an Intellectual level poly agrees with me more. But...

I think you hit the nail on the head with this one. I think I am worried about it. I think it's worrying me because well... I dont think my boyfriend wants the same ya know? He has been wanting a more casual partner for a while and expressed interest in pursuing a person whom for personal...

Have you come across the term Demisexual? That's how I identify. I need feels of some sort (friendship at the bare minimum but in reality I need to like the person) bond to feel any sexual attraction towards a person. Pure physical attraction is not something I have ever felt.

Recently there have been some major changes in my life. Over the past month me and my girlfriend have broken up. I do ultimately believe that it was for the best but it's still a but painful as the loss of that relationship is fresh. We had been together for about a year and a half. I am...

Is part of this that you want longer periods of time together, rather than more frequent time together?

This is a very good point. Thank you for this feedback. I think this is definitely part of this issue at the moment. I think I need to figure out what I want. Up till now I have been flexible but since I don't think she know what she wants there has been lots of back and forth. Maybe being...

I think the key with it is setting boundaries and sticking to them. And then taking the time to adjsut to the new and presumably different boundaries. As an update she fixed some of her shit and she asked me to take her back so now we are dating again. It feels different tho. I think we are...

Does your husband want to be monogamous? Are you okay with being monogamous for him?

Have you ever talked to her about your feelings? I think doing so you might find closure.

I'm not sure if no contact would work for this particular situation. Just knowing our respective personalities. We have been talking a fair bit and it has all been positive so far. I am friends with exes of mine. But I have never gone from a more serious relationship to a more casual...

I would advise you think about why it is you what what it is you want. Why do you want freedom? What does freedom mean to you? What does that look like? What do you want from the relationship you are in? What do you want? Why do you want it? I think it's important to have some of those answers...