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Ok, I see if have cause a bit of discourse with unclear statements so hopefully this straightens it out a bit. Physically, I picked up the paperwork; but we both had discussed getting it so we would be able to look it over and understand what would be needed if the time came. I even began to...

I understand that, but i dont have to like it. And I guess to be a bit clearer my issue stems from his assertion/assumption that it is going to happen, and this was happening even early on in the relationship. Like within the first month or two early.

Divorce is in consideration, we picked up the paperwork not too long ago "just in case" but havent really made any moves towards filling it out and filing. I have absolutely zero concerns about co-parenting. She is a great mom and there isnt any hostility between us for the kids tk get caught...

I know its been some time so I wanted to give an update. The short version is Im pretty sure our marriage is done, not officially as of yet, but her consistent actions doesn't lend to any other conclusion for me. I dont remember if I touched on it or not, but last month was Leo's birthday and...

So I feel its probably a good point to re-solidify the fact that we arent officially poly yet. I am doing my best to navigate things in a way that would make a poly lifestyle successful. A lot of this still revolves around the fact that I dont know if she intends to remain in any kind of...

It's probably like 10-15 people, just close family. If she were gone we wouldn't be having dinner with her family. Between the 2 of us there hasn't been any discussion about telling her family anything (or mine, for that matter).

Anything is possible, but im quite sure she hadnt mentioned anything about the trip to her family. They dont even know that she's in a relationship with Leo.

Pretty much like i said before. Doing some kind of egg/jelly bean hunt (depending on the weather) and baskets for the kids in the morning. Then dinner with her family that evening.

Just dropping a small update: I haven't brought up anything about Easter in favor of just accepting the change as is. Also, as a general rule, I have pretty much completely stepped away from her and Leo's time together. I'm not asking any questions about it and not contacting her at all when...

Like Tinwen said, things with Leo have fallen into poly and there isnt any intention or pressure towards a threesome. She also has no interest in seeking anyone else out. We havent discussed anything about new partners yet. I dont think I have the emotional capacity to deal with being with...

I don't know about when she brought it up. But as I've said before, the whole starting point of opening the relationship was based on a threesome being a main fixture. There wasn't meant to be any kind of long term/serious relationship. Also she wasn't dating anyone until this current guy, and...

We don't do a whole lot for Easter, jelly bean/Easter egg hunt for the kids, depending on the weather, and baskets. Then an Easter dinner with one of our families. Yes, her initial decision to go was something that really hit me big. It was before she brought up the separation stuff, and was...

Mostly a work in progress and I'll be updating as time goes on. I do have one question before I open my mouth and insert my foot though. Late January/early February, I dont remember when exactly, Leo invited my wife to go with him and his family up to somewhere in Canada around Easter weekend...

I think here is probably best. There's a lot more for people to have context about the situation. And I can always copy/paste relevant info in this thread when I get on my laptop again.

Thanks, I linked to this from the other post but didn't think to do the reverse here!

Thank you. Yes there's definitely things that need to be worked on/discussed. And obviously this is only my side of the story so I know everyone can only give advise based off of that. I really appreciate all the support everyone has given so far though.

Another month or so later (now right around 4 months into this), Carrie and I have had a few disagreements about how things have been going on, mainly me being concerned with how fast things are going, or not being totally comfortable with things he has said about their future together. For...

So this is the more complete version of my situation that was being discussed here: https://polyamory.com/threads/sanity-check.159512/ About a year ago, my wife (Carrie, female, 39) and I (39, male), after much discussion and a small amount of previous experience, decided to open our...

If it was about making the cake, he lives with his parents and his grandmother was visiting. He doesn't have any other relationships besides with my wife.

Many of the things you touched on are things I am working on. I literally started anxiety meds 2 days ago. I'm doing counselling on a bunch of related stuff, etc. Also, I didn't GET to leave because I was uncomfortable. I left because that was what was asked of me by my wife, and I was okay...