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Hi, Meera. I can so relate to the lack of understanding from your closest friends and family. My friends and family are not poly-friendly (even the non-monogamous ones are still monoromantic.) Those I am out to do not understand my relationship structure. And obviously, those I am not out to...

The thing is, until someone is ready to see their own destructive habits and behaviors, no amount of explaining, pleading, or criticizing is going to change them. It's much easier to choose vulnerable partners and manipulate situations and others than it is to look honestly at ourselves and do...

Staying together for the sake of our children isn't doing our children any favors. BTDT. My children are adults now. They all have told me that they wish I'd left their father when they were younger. IMHO, the best thing we can do for our children is to be our authentic selves so they can...

I agree with you and Evie. To me, red flags are warning signs of abusive, selfish, or toxic behaviors that have the potential to harm me or others in some capacity. They are objective; however, some red flags are scarier/ more harmful than others. Incompatibilities are subjective. I still...

New relationship energy (NRE) is a powerful drug. He's not the first person to get caught up in it when opening a relationship and neglect the original partner. If you do a search on "poly hell", you'll find some good resources for dealing with it. It can be very disconcerting when your partner...

Could it be grief? The dynamic in your relationship is changing. And while you want these changes, the dynamic is shifting and things are changing in your relationship which may be causing some sadness. It doesn't necessarily have to mean that opening your relationship isn't right for you, it...

Do you like stitch fix? I've been considering trying it but haven't taken the leap yet. Are their prices reasonable?

My condolences on the loss of Tiny Dog. Losing pets can be so hard ☹ ((hugs))

I agree with Magdlyn. Threesomes can be really tricky. Even when they feel great at the time, awkwardness and hurt feelings are common in my experience. My first experience was with a couple. It was fun and sexy in the moment but really awkward the next day. But the intention was casual sex and...

I'm so sorry, Jane. :(

I am in the US, and I was quarantined due to an exposure. I've also had friends, family members, and employees be tested and/or quarantined due to symptoms and/ or exposure. In all cases, contact tracing was not done officially. People were notified by friends or employers that they'd had an...

I'm so sorry, Vinsanity. I hope the blurriness gets better. ITA with everything you've said re: COVID. Especially the desire to throat punch a few people!

I hope you are feeling better today, Kevin. You're definitely appreciated by many here :)

I think how you worded it is perfect. It was honest while still being kind and loving. And it was a wise decision for all of you. I hope your other kitties stay well. We took in a rescue once who we were told had been tested for everything. Turned out they didn't test for FeLV and the kitten...

I'm really sorry, Kevin.

Congratulations on the new baby!

That's really great news!! Enjoy your night :)

Given that your job involves working with toddlers, I understand why you'd be hesitant to return to work. That's very different from Charles's situation, an office environment, etc. I can understand why you're considering quitting now, rather than later. I'd be hesitant to return, too, in your...

As an employer, my suggestion is to say yes now. You can always change your mind next month and still give them time to hire someone else. But you can't take back a no. As an employer, I would not hold it against any employee who changed their mind, especially if they let me know a few weeks in...

I think socially distanced visits are great for friends and family members, not for life partners. I can't imagine being able to maintain social distance while in their presence. I am so sorry you're both hurting.