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There's a huge difference between not having free access to someone's home and being unwelcome in the home. Tinwen's home is not an extension of Meta's home and should be respected as such. Even if it were a bedroom in the same apartment with Meta, it is polite and appropriate for other family...

My mother had dementia. My father is on the spectrum. He's very literal and exacting. There was a period of time that my mother believed she was a young woman, her grandmother was alive, and her children were school aged. My father would show her pictures of me and my siblings as adults and...

Antidepressants made me feel numb. I've tried celexa, prozac, and zoloft. I was put on prozac weekly for headaches, many years ago. I felt numb and blah. I attributed it to the fact that I wasn't depressed. Many years later I tried celexa and zoloft during my divorce when I was depressed and...

My sister has seasonal depression. For her, there is a direct correlation between sunlight/weather and her depression. She withdraws every winter. She also has some pretty rough stuff from her childhood that she hasn't dealt with which exacerbates the problem. We know she will withdraw during...

Is there any reason why Meta can't treat it the same as if Idealist was in an office away from home? Just text and call like she would if he were across town? And, of course, if he needed to care for the baby, he could bring him to your flat? I wouldn't want her having free access to my home...

Has anything changed since you joked with him about dating before? Has he indicated that dating would feel less "incestuous" now than he thought it would before? Or, do you have more time available now than you did before? If not, I might be inclined to just enjoy it for what it is...a flirty...

I agree with the others. Your wife is just attempting to justify her position. She wants to have her gf but doesn't want you to also date. I'm sure if you agreed to not have PIV or PIA sex with any women you date, she'd find another "technicality" to justify why you shouldn't date.

I am so sorry, David. You are in a really tough spot. I agree with Evie. In your position, I would be looking for a new place to live, ASAP. Ultimatums don't work. On the slight chance she agrees to break up with Grant, she will resent you, and that will further erode your already strained...

Congratulations, Spork! That's awesome news :)

This was my impression, too. I refrained from commenting because I have no experience with this particular kink. David, does she treat you respectfully and as an equal in other areas of your life? Or is she usually the decision-maker and you typically have acquiesced to her desires-- and now...

I am so, so sorry Bluebird :( Punkrock can kick this. I hope he can find a good therapist that he clicks with. My therapist has even had some success using EMDR on alcoholics. Maybe he could look into that? That really sucks about your therapist. I hope they find one you like even better...

I'm so glad your cousin changed her mind :) I think it's funny that your parents bought Ocean and Lobe matching shirts, lol. Sounds like you had a nice Christmas! I hope the new year brings many good things for you and your family. :)

Gorgeous cat. Congratulations!!

Do you journal? It helps me to see the progress I make by reading through my journal and seeing where I was and where I currently am. Also, you could try keeping a journal where you write down all the fun things you do together, and all the ways you see that he loves you. Then, when you're...

While I agree with Evie that it is your work to do, I'd add that these are natural, normal feelings. You're new to poly so cut yourself some slack! It takes time to adjust, to undo societal and family of origin conditioning. Some people have very few feelings of jealousy and insecurity when...

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Sadly, dating someone in the medical field isn't a guarantee either. I think it's the fringe populace that tend to be more likely to want testing. MY son says there's still even quite a few gay men who don't insist on condoms or testing, especially now that PREP is available for HIV prevention...

I read your blog, too, Evie. I'm glad things are really improving for you.... and that you and Adam are able to be together for a few weeks :) I hope your health is improving as well!

Ugh. What a jerk! I'm glad you found out sooner rather than later. Online dating is frustrating, lol.

I agree with Fuchka that most of this really is about preferences. There are things you can do to help you feel more confident. I think communication always helps. Also regular aerobic exercise and strength training can help with speed and stamina. And practice definitely helps! ;) If you want...