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Yes, so long as there's love involved and they all agreed to participate in that kind of relationship. Perhaps you'll find the discussion in this thread from a couple of years ago relevant.

I never got the impression that there was much love involved in Hef's relationships, so I'd hesitate to label them "poly".

That is some of the worst relationship advice I've ever seen.

It seems like you and your guys are seeing only two possible options; sex with no feelings and you stay with your husband, or sex plus feelings and you leave hubby for them. That means that from their point of view as soon as there are feelings your divorce is automatically on the table...

If you want a monogamous relationship that's ok. You don't have to date a poly guy if you don't want to be in a poly relationship, but chances are that he's not going to suddenly "see the light" as a reward for you persisting in something that makes you unhappy. The best way to stop being in a...

Not necessarily. Just because one person in a network is polysaturated and chooses to stop dating new people doesn't mean their existing partners have to do the same.

That depends upon what sort of "spending time" he's talking about. I read it as more of a "introduce and be comfortable talking to" thing, but that may be because that's what I'm used to in my own relationships. It does simplify things greatly.

Could you re-state your question? I'm not sure I understand it.

What is your understanding/definition of "unicorn"? I get the feeling that you're using it quite differently than most here do.

Moderator note: This is your friendly reminder that the number one guideline for using this forum is that we all need to be considerate toward each other. It doesn't matter if the other guy did it first or not; the namecalling is not to continue. If you believe a post breaks any of the User...

Have you read So, someone called you a Unicorn Hunter? The "unicorn" term isn't about people looking for just-for-sex relationships; it's also about trying to find someone to squish into a relationship box that was rigidly defined by the existing couple before the unicorn has even been met...

There were a number of posts from the OP waiting in the moderation queue, so there may be some replies there now that weren't previously.

Is your rule that you can't have sex with a previous partner, or that you can't have any contact with a previous partner? If it's the latter then yes, your two examples are as bad as each other. If it's the former, then your wife is not doing anything to contravene your rule and you should stay...

Sure, if you're happy for him to have that access. If you're not, tell him "no" and accept the outcome. Your boundaries are what you make them, and the consequences are on you, not on anyone else. If you want privacy in your communications with others then that's where you draw your line...

I've renamed it for you. Hopefully everyone who has posted so far can find it again.

You are not involved in a relationship with your meta, so they are under no obligation to speak to you at all, let alone ask you for permission for what they can or can't do with their GF. If you have concerns about your GF's other relationships that's between you and her, not you and her...

This one almost was as well. Please try to use descriptive words in English for your thread titles; "Leste FARO" looks like spam.

I'm not sure why you think that vinsanity's post is in any way "throwing dirt". Unicorns are hard to find, hence the name. If you meant to post this in the Dating and Friendships section (where advice and discussion are not allowed) let me know and I'll move your thread.

You've misspelled "... my husband announced that he was cheating on me and expected me to accept it". Slapping a "poly" label on cheating doesn't make it not cheating.

Goodbye.