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Hi Alan Coming in on this late and haven't time to read the whole thread but just wanted you to know that there is a strong poly group in Brisbane. They meet up once a month in a pub at West-end. You can probably find them yourself if you google or if you message me I will hunt out the...

Hi It must be difficult for you. Why did you commit to such a relationship? Even I, as a mono would not entertain a long distance relationship. I can see that for a poly to be in a relationship with a mono would be hard enough, but long distance? You must be getting something truly amazing out...

Please don't apologise. For goodness sake, this is your blog, you can write what you like. It will be useful to you and it's useful to me also. I saw that I needed to add honesty to my little list. And you aren't back to square one, it looks to me like you're just working the programme. We both...

Thanks NYCindie ...and Ari sorry to be sort of hijacking your blog with my issues. I hope these things may be of support to you as well. I suppose I should really pick up my old blog here but I have writing pressures from all angels at the moment and the last thing I want is another one. I...

Thanks Ari The murky waters are clearing. I thought I had moved through this step but it backed up behind me and showed me that I hadn't really. The trouble I had wasn't with believing in a higher power but understanding that higher power. I have always come from a new age perspective which in...

Ha ha Ari, Your mother sounds very similar to mine. She is very close to my eldest daughter and I thought the fact that daughter (Kelly)has been going to AA for a year now would sort of pave the way for my attendance to be accepted. Kelly obviously hadn't told her grandmother in a way that...

Hi Ari Wow are we that far along in our sobriety. I like it when you say how far you've come because it reminds me how far I've come and your post came through as I was working on the deck in the sun thinking how nice it would be to have a glass of champagne. I used to love a drink on a sunny...

Hi KT Sorry to hear about your meltdown, big hugs. I know a fair bit about bi-polar disorder as I suppose theoretically I have it. Does one ever not have it after diagnosis? That I don't know. I believe I have healed myself (no episodes in 7 years) and no medication but there is always the...

Hi Morning Twilight Polyamory can be a very scary thing and more so for someone who doesn't understand it. Before 'coming-out', which is a bit like laying all your cards on the table, why not introduce your wife to the subject from a distance? Has she even heard about it? Many people haven't...

To reassure you, poly/mono relationships can work, but they require both parties to work at it. If your partner is not prepared to do the work, maybe he does not get the importance of this to you? Are you prepared to end the relationship over it? There is a yahoo group dedicated to poly people...

Thank you for the apology KT and for taking the time to respond so fully to everyone's suggestions. I used to get angry like you and probably still will under the right conditions. I now try to walk away and walk out my anger physically, letting it subside before I do or say anything I'll...

I didn't mean I personally 'suffer' like this all the time. In fact it was actually Z who text me this morning (he is away) and said he had tried to find me in the bed all night. But I don't sleep well away from him either. What I was trying to convey is that this depth of feeling is what our...

AAAAAAARRRGGGHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! KT (just in case you do decide to log in, I'm not getting into private posting ) Your post came up on my phone while I was walking. I didn't read it all but I would like to respond to the first bit, which I see now pales compared to the...

Thanks for the quoting instructions MFFR Firstly I didn't say ALL monos feel this way. I was giving it as an answer to your question about why people can't understand how you can love more than one person. Interesting that you read my post and can say things like 'co-dependence' and "women who...

Wasn't sure where to post this, here or in the weightloss thread. I had to do some bar research for a training manual I'm writing, so on a freezing NZ day, I treated myself to a nice lunch and warm sticky pudding (in the name of research, of course). Then I was walking down the street under...

"YES!!! Why do people assume that we're capable of loving 2 parents, 4 grandparents, 3 siblings, and 21 2/3 friends, but incapable of loving more than one lover? Why doesn't it surprise them that I don't get jealous when my friend(s) has/have other friends, but they can't get their heads around...

My jeans are getting baggy yay:) And it's been Easter!!! And it's been rainy (hard to walk) And I've had an awful cold. So really pleased after Easter holidays of visiting family etc. Far be it from me to push products but do you have something over there called "Sensorslim" or something like...

I felt compelled to comment on your weekend. What struck me is that you have reached a wonderful state of "allowing" within your family. This, for me, is polyamory at its most powerful. Of course, it's never going to be perfect, as our growth often lies in our struggles and seeming...

Hi Maca, Nice to meet you, I think it's good when couples can communicate together via a blog, but out of respect to LR, I won't keep responding unless she comes on and says she's OK with it. I will say that it sounds to me like you never worked through all the pain when you first found out...

Well it seems we are similar in that we couldn't stop (although we have) but we weren't out of control. In a way that's a problem for me. I go to these AA meetings and I don't relate very well to these people who have had very out of control lives as a result of alcohol. In a way it makes me...