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That's totally cool. The picture I was getting before was that he was moving everyone in together, and she was trying to talk beforehand, and you were wondering why she was trying to talk to you...and I just felt like, ummmm, necessity? :) I doubt he would, either, but hey, at least you aren't...

That sounds much more reasonable than the picture you presented earlier. You keep the living arrangements you prefer, and if he insists on living with the other woman, he's free to do so-- WITHOUT you forced to join along. Happy to hear that you're keeping an option to live away from him, if...

I would also be upset in your case. I did the exact same thing you did. in my case, my partner and I invited a girl to spend the weekend with us. I woke the one morning to find myself alone. I was fine with it, we'd even talked about that he and her would be sure to make some time for just...

I apologize if I made it seem he had that much time. The free time he has on the weekends are A) Friday nights (and I would feel bad for offering THAT up to a metamour, he's too tired to do anything but watch TV that night and goes to sleep early in order to get his kids the next morning at...

Clarifying a question that was extremely rude and presumed that Emmy did not ever leave her house. I will speak up for members that are treated poorly.

She explained that in her post, if you bothered to read it. And actually, she specifically talks about partners going to other people's places.

I don't see that at all. I personally have a PREFERENCE to be intimately involved. I like triads, etc. But sometimes we end up dating separately. And that's fine. I've never met my partner's fwb and likely won't. She's not part of our family. But what I do see is people, like...

Yep. Mine is the same way. I think it might be different if there were no future plans to have kids, but there will be over the years....I think we'll scare off any childfree lifestyle types with the number that are already in the picture....so I imagine any new additions will want children...

I completely relate.

Unfortunately, there are several things going on. One, do you have any other partners in your life? My partner had a heart attack scare and his wife decided she wanted to go out with her boyfriend regardless. I guess she expected me to take care of him, but truthfully, I don't think she cared...

I'll write it with you! Metamours are severely underrepresented in poly writings. ...

My situation isn't exactly yours, and honestly, none of us are solely polysexual and so that wouldn't happen often in our polyship. However, we both are very busy and there are very few people in either of our lives (romantic or otherwise) that are very important to us. We dedicate almost all...

Just pointing out that making general statements is usually not fair. It may be tedious for you, but simply claiming that all family style poly where people prefer to live in the same residency is a wild claim to make.

I think I explained myself very clearly above. Our schedules simply don't allow time for a metamour who refuses to ever interact or meet with anyone in the rest of the family. Again, there is no forcing. But than that person relegates themselves to maybe one available weekend a month (that...

If another woman managed a deep relationship with my partner, while never spending time with both him and me, I'd be okay with it. But she still would get very little time with him.

Do you need an anonymous friend?

I can't help but love them. They ask about me constantly. Adore playing with me.

I love his kids more than him :) That limits my dating pool, but i don't care. But if you aren't a fan of metamours, that's very good advice.

"The only time I see this being an issue is if, say, a person wants or needs to blend all their partners into one communal family due to scheduling restraints or whatever else. If a person was barely able to see one of their partners unless that partner was willing to come around to the house...

I really dislike when people only like poly when THEY get other partners....