I've never used a forum in my life, so please forgive me of this is in the wrong place.
My partner and I moved in together three days ago. For two months, I've been looking at countless places, trying to find something we'd both love, in a neighborhood we'd both like, and I found one.
About a week ago, he met a girl. They've been out five times since that day and I've happily done most of the moving, unpacking, and furniture building myself. He's new to the poly thing, so I have just been excited that he's met someone, and she sounds very sweet, she's cute as a button, and they have a lot of shared interests. I want it to go well. Obviously.
That being said, I have been feeling a bit neglected and seriously overworked. His working on yet another degree, and although it's only been a week or so, I haven't really seen him for more than an hour or two since they met.
Last night I was standing on a stool to put up some tension rods in our closets, and fell pretty hard. I blacked out for what I imagine was a minute (?) and he got home about forty minutes later.
I told him that I was fairly sure that I had a concussion, and he proceeded to tell me he was about to leave for a party with his new lady friend, and he'd be back later. I was super upset when he left, proceeded to vomit for a few hours, and by 3:30 am, when he wasn't home, I drove myself to the hospital, and then to a friend's house.
I feel incredibly betrayed, and I'm not sure how to talk to him about it. I'm not even sure I'd like to pursue him anymore, but now, we've signed a lease.
I'm not needy, I'm very supportive of his education, career, friendships, and romantic partners, but I can't get over the fact that I fell, fucked up some ribs, and had a concussion, and he just left and didn't come back.
The obvious answer would be to leave, but I really don't think he understands how awful he has been the past week, and when I try to talk to him, he makes excuses and I end up getting cranky and not especially nice.
I guess I just don't know how to start the conversation.
My partner and I moved in together three days ago. For two months, I've been looking at countless places, trying to find something we'd both love, in a neighborhood we'd both like, and I found one.
About a week ago, he met a girl. They've been out five times since that day and I've happily done most of the moving, unpacking, and furniture building myself. He's new to the poly thing, so I have just been excited that he's met someone, and she sounds very sweet, she's cute as a button, and they have a lot of shared interests. I want it to go well. Obviously.
That being said, I have been feeling a bit neglected and seriously overworked. His working on yet another degree, and although it's only been a week or so, I haven't really seen him for more than an hour or two since they met.
Last night I was standing on a stool to put up some tension rods in our closets, and fell pretty hard. I blacked out for what I imagine was a minute (?) and he got home about forty minutes later.
I told him that I was fairly sure that I had a concussion, and he proceeded to tell me he was about to leave for a party with his new lady friend, and he'd be back later. I was super upset when he left, proceeded to vomit for a few hours, and by 3:30 am, when he wasn't home, I drove myself to the hospital, and then to a friend's house.
I feel incredibly betrayed, and I'm not sure how to talk to him about it. I'm not even sure I'd like to pursue him anymore, but now, we've signed a lease.
I'm not needy, I'm very supportive of his education, career, friendships, and romantic partners, but I can't get over the fact that I fell, fucked up some ribs, and had a concussion, and he just left and didn't come back.
The obvious answer would be to leave, but I really don't think he understands how awful he has been the past week, and when I try to talk to him, he makes excuses and I end up getting cranky and not especially nice.
I guess I just don't know how to start the conversation.
