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How I read her complaint was the frog quality and the pump-and-dump mentality of some of the frogs and the non-committal attitudes they held. It sounds like she also had fun when she was younger but maybe felt used or disposable later on. If you’re trying to find a 10 to basically settle down...

Simple go to the last word and hit return.👍😉 It drops it down. So has it been months or years that you’ve been in a poly dynamic? Are all potential candidates from swinging encounters? Lasting? Is there a pattern? No judgment. I'm just wondering if it could be NRE, or an expectations issue...

I think the structure of a legal separation would be very similar to the detangling advice. It helps in the transition to poly. Makes complete sense to me. Perfect timing, IMO. Godspeed.

To be fair it sounded like she was venting a frustration being a single poly female in a plus 50 age bracket. It’s sort of the opposite end of he poly spectrum of married poly men not being able to find any dates. Somewhere around 40-45 these to groups probably intersect. But you’re...

Hi, and welcome to the forum. How did you and your wife decide to open your marriage? How much prep work did you do in advance? How long were you poly dating? How many partners did you both have prior to the start of poly/family counseling? Did your wife have some misguided idea that if...

How long have you been together? Do you have any form of commitment, i.e., living together, engaged, married? You state you'd been asking for this shared experience. Was she seemingly receptive/excited/enthusiastic to also share that together, or was she dismissive and non-receptive? Is this...

HI Ninjin, and welcome to the forum. Were you married in any of the long-term mono relationships? Was the reason for leaving related to needing/wanting more? To me, that sounds like a reasonable and logical thought process/model. Are you saying you didn’t see the risks or threats, or that they...

Hey Midnight. Happy New Year. Thanks for the update. I hope your Christmas wasn’t too affected. Have you announced to extended family now the decision you both have made?

Most newbies don’t think they need to detangle anything that is adding to the existing, instead of starting from scratch building something new. This could be a slight vocabulary misunderstanding, but triad in the poly world means all 3 are romantically and sexually involved. I think you’re in...

Clearly it depends on what side of that fence youre sitting on. CLEARLY things haven’t improved much on your side. I bet a lot of people like / get off on the stress and anxiety/ uncertainty of NRE it’s part of the excitement.

First off, I thought your reply, the one in question, was to me and not to the OP. Secondly, here’s how I read it. Adam, for whatever reasons, doesn’t like to admit he struggled with poly and/or intrusions such as constant texting in the early days. And you confess to being a nightmare on your...

You seem to be missing or ignoring key elements of this story. If he’s the only one on the designated “date night“ that remembers that they once enjoyed each other company on dates, how does that sustain the relationship? She’s not excited for their date, in relation to her other date. Why...

That’s the answer: "I was a nightmare with being on my phone, and I still am. Fuck it. You just have suck it up, accept the new normal." Really?

Why? If he wants to use date night to get her undivided attention and air a pretty major grievance that could put the relationship in a death spiral, I don’t see the downside. Isn’t sort of disingenuous to have these issues, and act like they don’t exist, or watch them play out during the date...

You mentioned in your opening post that your wife brought up the idea of poly. Do you know how much research she had done at that point? How soon after that conversation did she start dating? What preparatory conversations did you have? Do you know if she’s a member here? Or if she views you...

I’m guessing here, but from simple math, it looks like things changed after the last kid was born. I don’t know the pathology of asexuality, but I’ve not heard of it as being a degenerative condition…gradually happening over time and/or popping up one day. So, the first half of your...

I just had a thought because my barbershop is in a strip mall next to an adult toy store. Not sure how this works, but I’m sure others here very much do, but why not cop to the size queen thing, and for Christmas give him an extender, or whatever they’re called? And I would think he’d be able to...

Hi, and welcome to the forum. 1. You both need to do as much research as possible. 2. The problem with question number 2 is the “we” part you’ll quickly learn and see this has gone from a team sport (football) to more of an individual sport like track. 3, 4, 5. Those are personal...

Hi MrL. Welcome to the forum. How many years has it been on the rocks? On the rocks means what, once a quarter, once a year, or sexless for years? In those years, has there been any interest on her part in discovering the root cause, whether it be medical or psychological? Has she been...

What was the expectation upon opening the relationship? Just average or below average sexual experiences? Nobody anticipated “amazing “ SEX with Chad Mcthundercock ? I don’t see what fair has to do with it. There a similar thread from the opposite perspective-- wife is upset because her...