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If you haven't explicitly talked about this, don't assume it. I reckon you should ask. Also maybe be clear on exactly how long you'll be away for if you're leaving the house, if you have any concerns about walking in in the middle of something. Sounds like you've got a good plan for the visit...

Vicki - maybe. The gym didn't ask. I'm not restricting calories but going from unhealthy to healthier eating. Still getting required calories for being pregnant etc. Exercise isn't too full on. I'm not jumping or anything, just low impact stuff. I think I'm ok but will mention it next time I see...

Hey, new to this thread and not 100% sure it's for me but I'll see how I go :) My weight has fluctuated over the years - not through dieting, but lifestyle variations. When I've been less active, I put on more fat. I also love eating - a lot! It's only been recently I properly understood the...

El, what would you want her to know? You hadn't decided to come out to her, and you don't need to now just because of the FB thing. I think you handled it well. Unless you want to open up to her more (and given her narc tendencies, maybe you don't!) I'd just let things be how they are. You've...

If a partner asked me that, I would refuse to answer, too. At least, I would refuse to answer the question directly. For me, it would be because I couldn't compare any two loves quantifiably. Not to say that love is equal, but when I love someone, I love them, particular things about them. It's...

Really glad to hear that! What a relief. Hope it continues to work out well.

Yeah, that makes sense.

Really good pick up on the unasked/unanswered question, Kevin. You're right about popular tradition and perhaps I was in a bubble expecting that the conversation has progressed from that in any mainstream media. The same website (Guardian) has featured several polyamorous stories (mostly...

Curtains for all Thanks for the New Year wishes, PinkPig. Same to you! Re the matching shirts, both Ocean and Lobe thought it was a joke! But I actually think it's my parents doing their best to come up with appropriate gifts :) I'm feeling pretty satisfied right now. Lobe is asleep next to...

Advice columnist responds to a writer who is married and had an brief affair with a married man, which brought on intense emotions. Writer wonders if it is possible to continue intimate relationships with both husband and (former) lover...

Thanks for the update! How did Thanksgiving with your parents go? Wish you and yours a great year in 2020.

David, it's helpful to read your responses and how you've reflected on what other people have said. I hope that you can come to a peaceful decision about this, even if you also feel sad or uncertain. Sorry for misreading your narrative and not picking up on the fact that Lena's already spending...

The only equality that's workable is equal respect. You're clearly concerned about the impact on the kids. You are just two months into these new relationships (you with Friendly, and Sixteen with Friendly). If it helps, you could focus on what's best for the kids moving forward. Are you all...

That sounds like a lovely Christmas, Vicki! Best wishes for the New Year too

Ah, I didn't read carefully enough and missed the fact that she's already sleeping over two nights a week at his place. Yeah, this has definitely progressed to de facto polyamory already, even though you hadn't explicitly talked about it until more recently. Good luck!

Organic goodness Exciting news in my life is a newly-placed musical instrument in our living room. It's a reed organ c. 1905 that I bought on impulse in my early 20s and I've carted around with me since then. It was in pretty bad shape, but I recently had it restored and it's in great playing...

David, it might be helpful to consider this as two separate questions. 1) Are you willing to try poly? 2) Would you be able to make it work? If you are not willing to try, what happens then? Would you have to split up, or would your girlfriend (I'm going to call her "Lena") accept the status...

They've all probably discussed this, but in that situation I'd want to discuss beforehand what the expectations were in the event any of the relationships broke up. I'd also want to have conversations about shared space, privacy for self and dyads as well as respecting Pedro. A regular house...

Merry Christmas, Bluebird! I saw Harry Potter PJs in the shops the other day and thought of you :) Glad to hear your daughter's been clean awhile now. Hope things go well with her moving in for a bit.

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