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Advice columnist responds to a writer who is married and had an brief affair with a married man, which brought on intense emotions. Writer wonders if it is possible to continue intimate relationships with both husband and (former) lover.
https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2020/jan/05/i-had-a-night-of-lust-and-now-want-both-him-and-my-husband-mariella-frostrup
What do you think of the advice given? How would you answer differently (if at all)?
I felt the columnist raised a lot of points that were valid enough, but not what I would have focused on. I was surprised that ethical non-monogamy wasn't mentioned at all, even in contrast to the writer's situation. That said, I liked how the columnist highlighted the fact we get different things from different relationships.
I wondered whether the concept of NRE (in the way we discuss it here) makes it easier to illuminate the heady chemical fog of a new connection, and the perils of making big decisions based on this. I felt this was a significant omission. I did like the Life of Brian quote, though!
https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2020/jan/05/i-had-a-night-of-lust-and-now-want-both-him-and-my-husband-mariella-frostrup
What do you think of the advice given? How would you answer differently (if at all)?
I felt the columnist raised a lot of points that were valid enough, but not what I would have focused on. I was surprised that ethical non-monogamy wasn't mentioned at all, even in contrast to the writer's situation. That said, I liked how the columnist highlighted the fact we get different things from different relationships.
I wondered whether the concept of NRE (in the way we discuss it here) makes it easier to illuminate the heady chemical fog of a new connection, and the perils of making big decisions based on this. I felt this was a significant omission. I did like the Life of Brian quote, though!