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Well now that changes everything. Definitely not a guy I'd fight for or pine over. Once a person can lie they mostly can never stop.:mad:

Let him go. Yeah, the text break up may be cowardly, but he's being honest with himself. The pain, well that's because a break-up during NRE is just as hard as if you were breaking up and being together a year, 10 years, 20 years...your heart/mind just hasn't lost those endorphins from this new...

Happy Anniversary to you and Dark Knight.

For me, it wasn't a threat, but truly where I am at in our relationship if interactions don't change. And he knows it's serious. Was he hurt by telling him that, yes. I wouldn't throw that out there unless it's where my head is. And as I said it wasn't an "ultimatum" between one relationship or...

That's an interesting point. Always makes one wonder intentions of others. And not knowing the conversation before the "offer" doesn't help either. It just surprises me that a poly couple, wild orchid & the hunter, of over 15 years poly are having "issues". There's a trigger over there that I'm...

Well bassman today has said he'd not text her while I'm home. So far so good. Then...wild orchid (during their call after he got off work but before getting home) offered to get me a massage. I just don't know when I'd have time this week. Bassman's birthday dinner at his parents Tuesday...

I am struggling right now. I am sucking at being poly. I think bassman sucks at being a hinge. I can go about 5 days feeling ok. Than bam! I'm in a funk. My work schedule can be sun to sat or mon to sun with no day off until #14. Yesterday I hit over 61 hours in 6 days (only worked just over...

I'd be more concerned about him getting an std test before entering me bareback if I was you and not a picture.

short update My mind and body have adapted to working over 60 hours a week. I do recognize when I hit my wall and need to take a weekend day off. Issues of jealousy and envy are gone - Yeah! Issues of bassman being a horrible communicator as a hinge are still there but actions he's done in...

Did you ask if he was fantasizing or did he tell you he was and then was that when you asked? This is just one area that is off limits in discussions with bassman. He wants to tell me about how it felt for him when he's with wild orchid because in the past we'd share the intimate details of...

:D That is so awesome that you are still nursing! Although it's not all the time, my youngest is still a nurser. Not sure when we'll stop but kuddos you didn't quit and awesome on the natural birth (my first was exactly like that). Chad's a big guy! So cool. And congratulations!

Sometimes the hinge, bassman, isn't great at being a go between. Our V is different than yours since wild orchid is married. But still I'll make a request on pda in family settings and it gets lost in translation when he discusses with her. wild orchid and I have agreed that after I discuss...

Congratulations on your baby! Would love to hear his birth stats.;)

Does OP change her username each time or is every single post started just a continuation of the last one that is exactly the same. Its getting kinda old. OP, as NYC said, do something about what you don't like. Stop playing the victim and get proactive, only you can decide to make a change...

Gawd that is so true! And if the one "stuck" voices their discomfort and the unfairness, the other one with the "freedom" tends to say "you're trying to control me" instead of being accountable that its not equitable.

OP, honestly, if your wife never wants to meet her metamour or if she does meet but isn't interested in building a friendship with her, it should not be seen as a warning sign but that you need to quit pressuring her to push her boundaries. I've recently had to tell bassman and wild orchid (my...

Hi KerryRen! I'm just east of you over in Post Falls. Welcome to the forum. There's lots here to read, ask questions any time. There's a "professional" poly group on meetup but the free poly group just disappeared. I haven't been to any but am open to making new friends.

Hi I'm up North east of Spokane. There is a poly community here but its not vast. I understand meeting others is hard in the Eastern side of the Pacific Northwest but don't give up. Have you tried Fetlife to see if any poly peeps are lurking in your area? Not everyone uses Okc.

My oldest we told we were poly to a few months ago when bassman realized he is serious about wild orchid. Our family has been to her house once. Our 8 yo knows dad goes to wild orchid and the hunter's home for sleepovers. The youngest almost three has been with dad and wild orchid quite a bit...

After reading this thread and OP's other one I sense she ran away from problems back in Michigan, which appear to be to protect her son, but the divorce isn't final and there seems to be more back story there and why she won't move back. I know many couples that divorce and still live in same...