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Thanks FOL for the hugs, that was kind of your. I've read much of your blog over the last months. Maybe you'll understand when I say that I'd rather have one incredible, intense, fully tended relationship than a couple of pretty good ones. I think my partner is fine with the latter and would...

another morning after Got some sleep, feel better.

Pops has been in hospital since Saturday, am stressed and at end of my tolerance for everything. Took to my bed this evening, it helped some. But then I made the mistake of reading A's writings on Fetlife. She is gaga over him. I kinda hate him. No wonder he wants to spend time with her. Poly...

I read my last two posts, so glad that phase seems to have passed. I get so FURIOUS and then I don't act on it and it passes. I'm glad that I didn't throw away a perfectly good relationship based on an emotional firestorm. It was scary that it was so big and that it's happened like five times...

Wanted to stop by to send you some warm and fuzzy support vibes. I relate to much of what you are going though emotionally and I love your clarity. No words of wisdom lend, just saying you're not alone!

Ooo sounds painful, I've been there, the crying for days, in D/s relationship, being mono with a poly. Having to accept it because that's what my Dominant wants. Heartbroken and furious that he would be so selfish. I take a serious look when a relationship starts to interfere with my ability to...

Great advice from the previous posters. My current partner divorced after we'd been together over three years and we too faced the idea of us living together. We had wanted to for years -with his wife and daughter - but that didn't work out. It seemed important to me that he have some time...

Interesting question. As a mono-slanting person who has been working for years to sort out what is conditioned in me and what might be my intrinsic relational preference, I might suggest a different way to go about it. How about just start where she is at? If I understand it correctly, her only...

the next morning I didn't do it, I just eventually went to bed. Woke up hung over from emotional, with a terrible headache. He hasn't been reading poly stuff, so he doesn't know about the "rule" that you go as fast as the person struggling. Anyway, I really don't want to get any more...

trying to no do something crazy I really want to go in to the bedroom and tell him to leave. I can't believe I'm writing this because I know he is a good person. I know that I used to love him, but I don't want to be near him anymore. How can he comfort me if I'm furious at him. Disgusted too.

This thread has been so helpful to me, I wonder how it all turned out. Robert Courage you still around? The wife happy? To everyone to has posted on this thread and others, thank you! I read endlessly on this forum and it has helped me so much. So many smart, thoughtful and experienced people.

After that it got hard again Another round of tears and feelings of betrayal - how could he love me as much as he said he did and still want her? But I think I'm getting more and more that he is simply different than I am, his relationship preferences are foreign to me. It wasn't as noticeable...

The new girl came over for dinner And it was my idea :) After He and I did so much talking, for several days, we are in a much better place. Then I had my monthly book club with some wise s-type friends (each one of them poly) and that helped too. I feel spacious and generous, much more...

My partner of six years, who I serve in a D/s relationship, is considering a local woman. Though I appreciate polyamory on a theoretical level, my own love inclinations are very focused - mono if you will. When my partner tried to reassure me with the second child illustration of poly love I...

Hello! RP it is so nice to hear from you, thanks for updating. I too have read for your blog for a long while now. While I have never commented, you have been an important part of my morning coffee routine as I check the forum almost every day for a long time. Thank your for sharing your life...

Hard Questions versus Different Priorities Nadya, thanks for the validation that those are reasonable questions, but I'll leave it to someone else to post elsewhere. I'm thinking though that if my partner were to do that inventory, he would ultimately come to the conclusion (actually he said as...

Thanks Hello YouAreHere. Thanks for your post. And sorry I titled my thread so like yours. I should looking to changing that. I do feel like I'm processing the same stuff over and over again, thanks for sharing that was your experience. I often relate to your experience as I had similar - I...

how bad does it have to get My stance with poly is that I have to deal with it, I knew he was poly going in and I don't want to limit him and I'm willing to do the work of coping with the feelings. Then after several mornings waking up with a sad heart, for the second week, I wondered how bad...

a good day My reactions to his interest in other women is so mixed. Often I'm delighted that he is enjoying something yummy -- their interest in him, a surprise kiss, fun possibilities. Then other times I'm furious. I not feeling that way right now, but here's where I'll go when it hits...

I've been reading this forum for around two years but my struggles with poly have increased lately and I'm trying to use every tool to work through my discomfort. Upside to writing here: there are some smart people on this forum who opinions I respect and perhaps I'll get a welcomed different...