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Well, some things did happen this weekend, I found out a little more about meta. On Friday KC was being very argumentative with me. Everything I said was wrong in her mind, no matter what. Then on Saturday she was a complete .... well, she was straight-up mean. So as soon as we got some privacy...

Well KC is out with meta tonight. She usually goes out once every weekend and sometimes a weekday here or there. Nothing major has happened lately. She was bummed the other day because we found a Dodge Charger that was a good deal but somebody else beat us to it. I’ve been trying to think up...

I considered just using my first name but I knew it would be taken because it's so common (and it was). Then I thought maybe I should try to stay incognito. So I started thinking about aliases from TV. Art Vandilie was one that came to mind but just didn't feel like my style. Then I remembered...

"Life is sexually transmitted"

When my wife and I opened up it was like being a teenager all over again. Starting a new "way of life" brings on a whole learning curve that can be an emotional roller coaster. Do you currently feel like you are struggling to make poly work, or are you wanting to close the relationship back up?

Yea I think if you don't have it then it would be almost impossible to understand.

Well, everything has been a little misaligned lately. KC noticed my new vocabulary and asked, "Hmm, what have you been browsing?" I kinda want to show her this forum, but on the other hand I don't. In real life I can only talk to her about these things and there is nobody else I feel comfortable...

I still fantasize about it all the time but in reality my stamina may not be the same as it was when I was younger. If the situation was right and I didn't have to worry about embarrassment then yes I would do it again. Right now I think it would be less than a 50% chance that she would be...

Absolutely. I actually prefer it but we have kids and that makes things "tricky". She constantly tells me she is afraid of "tire slashers" so I think that's why things are so incognito right now.

It seems like this happens when she knows she is wrong or if there is a harsh reality that she would rather not acknowledge. I'm really thinking hard if there is another pattern but I can't think of anything else.

She will get mad and stop talking, stop answering questions, basically stay silent for the rest of the day. It's only certain issues that make her react this way.

No at the moment I have absolutely no contact information. It dose make me uneasy and it's one of the things that will trigger her if I push to hard. In fact I sometimes get the vibe she may be having a similar argument with my meta.

I've been fortunate so far so I haven't had to deal with it yet. But if it came down to it I think I could TCB myself and be OK for a day or 2.

I'm in a much better state of mind today. Things have been going smooth. I did have a bout of anxiety on Thursday but I don't think I'll go into that right now. The biggest update is the necklace KC is wearing. There are 2 pendants, one represents me, the other represents her g.f. (<-my meta if...

He's my boss. I lied and said "oh that's just a link from an add". He could see right through me but at least he could tell it made me uncomfortable and didn't press it any further. We famously don't get along as it is so I think we can pretend like it never happened.

So the majority of the posts here are from people who are hurting and I will be honest it is why I started posting here. But I also wanted to try and understand things from another point of view. So I read through all of the new posts of people who are scared or just need some support and I...

I've had several major realizations over the last few days, but in order for me to unpack them here I need to go a little more in depth about my wife, KC. I'm not proud of this next paragraph... The way we got together is, I stole her from one of my friends (CM). I became good friends with her...

I'm new to this as well so I may not be qualified to give advice however I can say that it is normal. Especially if you've been together that long, even if beforehand you think these feelings won't happen they still will. In order to start dealing with it you first need to determine if your...

I think it bugged me because I feel like its a significantly-sized detail that was left out until it affected something, and then was brought out in the open. In itself it's not a big deal, but its just the sensation of being left in the dark that's started to trigger me. I think we slowed way...

At the time of typing this, I am a 42-year-old straight male with a wife, a son, and a daughter. I'm not even poly... or am I? My entire experience is so limited that I don't even know most of the acronyms (meta, dadt, etc., etc.). However, I will try to explain my history as well as I can. My...