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Thank you. I hope you all are right that this is mainly a space issue. We actually are working on fixing up space above the garage for her to live in. It won't have a kitchen or bathroom, at least not now, just bedrooms are as much as we can afford right now. Honestly, the animosity between...

Hi. I first joined this forum years ago when my husband first fell in love with another woman (http://www.polyamory.com/forum/showthread.php?t=3653&highlight=rachelina). What's happened since then is this: I got pregnant in 2011. She moved in 3 months before I had my baby. I had agreed to...

We seem to be doing the opposite. Our currently long-distance girlfriend is scheduled to arrive shortly before our baby is due. I do worry that it will be a lot of change to adjust to at once. On the other hand, I think it will be great to have an extra person around to help with the baby and...

Wow, I'm still amazed that it's even a remote possibility that a child could be taken away because she has three loving parents instead of two. Unbelievable. Really, I had been more interested in advice on the emotional dynamics of this kind of situation, but I'm glad you all opened my eyes to...

Wow... I had no idea that could happen. I did look up my state's Child Protection Act and didn't see anything that would apply to polyamory. As far as I can tell, the state only gets involved in cases of abuse or neglect, but I'll read it more thoroughly later. There was a section called...

Thank you for your responses, Tonberry, MrFar and Black Unicorn. :) Tonberry, I'm curious and alarmed by what you said about people worrying that their children could get taken away. Has this happened? This isn't illegal, is it? Could a well-cared-for child really be taken away from its two...

I wish my post could have remained separate. Now it is lost in this thread which doesn't really apply to my situation. There are some interesting stories here, but I couldn't find any about people in a triad or vee having NEW children, to be raised in a polyamorous family with three parents...

Having children in a triad/vee I did search for this, but most of what I found was about preexisting children (actually, my husband does have four of those, but they are with us mainly on weekends). I saw the thread "new babies," but our situation is different, so I decided not to post there...

I have to disagree with the idea of taking drugs to deal with perfectly natural emotions. Everything Mahogany is feeling is normal. As for it being impossible to get hooked on SSRIs, visit www.paxilprogress.org which supports thousands of people struggling and suffering in the effort to get off...

Hi Taiel. I am in a somewhat similar situation. I don't have time to say much now but here is my original post, if you are interested: http://www.polyamory.com/forum/showthread.php?t=3653&highlight=brand+hurting To briefly answer your questions: I decided to try going along with my husband's...

My husband, his girlfriend and I recently watched the 1962 film Jules and Jim. Here is the Netflix synopsis: Writers Jules (Oskar Werner) and Jim (Henri Serre) are close friends who fall in love with the same woman, the unpredictable Catherine (Jeanne Moreau), amid the turbulence of World War...

Man.....I know exactly how that feels. I can say that I have been in your position and it has gotten better. Two months is not long at all; it took many months for me to even begin to accept it. Hang in there..... Redevil, it really sounds like he is trying as hard as he can! Such a radical...

Hi Mahogany, I just want to give you a little encouragement. I'm in the same situation, only it has been 6 months since my husband told me about his girlfriend. In the beginning I felt just as you do now and the pain was unbearable. But so much has changed: she has become my dear friend and...

I was also in this position when I first joined this forum: rationally I believed that accepting my husband's girlfriend was the right thing to do, but emotionally I couldn't handle it. Over several months, things have slowly changed, and now I do accept it emotionally (though I still do get...

Yes, I do feel/believe in that sort of energy, but it hasn't changed at all. Maybe because I was so happy to be doing it....or rather, for them to be doing it ;). It was coming from me, it was my idea. Also, I've come to feel like whatever happens between them isn't outside our marriage, but...

This is a really interesting question to me because I have just "crossed the line" myself and it's hard to say what made it happen. Some of the ingredients included: * my husband showering me with love * talking about everything, both with him and his girlfriend * getting to know her * a lot...

It is possible to transition from cheating to poly. My husband and I have done so. (He was the one who cheated.) I don't know how long you've been with Tom, but every single day that you continue lying to Ned is going to make it more painful to him when you finally do tell him. So tell him...

Thank you! Yes, this isn't necessarily going to be a triad....we don't know yet. It seems like the definitions may be a bit blurred in our case. All I feel sure of right now is that there will be something special between me and her. My fear is that the pain and jealousy I feel when the...

update: our girl is coming! Hello everyone. First of all thank you to everyone who responded to me so kindly and helpfully. And thank you to everyone who makes this forum happen - even though I don't post much since I'm such a beginner, I've been on here just about every day for the past...

Wow....great post, redpepper! Bunny, you asked, "how can he help me?" The main thing he can do is try to make you feel loved. I am in the same situation as you - trying to accept my husband being poly. I did feel less loved at first, but in the course of our working things out, I've come...