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That quote you refer to...it is NOT FOR YOU. It's for the angry men who want sex or a committed relationship (they want a woman to be their fuck or their property) and "friendship" with women is not a concept they are even interested in because they don't really see us as people anyways. They...

Q just texted me. He has finals and he said that he did his final in first period and the rest are classes he's failing and so he wanted to know if I'd pick him up and take him home. I wish I could smack him upside the head right now. We literally last week got a notice that if he continued...

I'm trying to process some of my personal dissonance that this situation has brought up for me, in light of some of the stuff in our community. We take consent culture very seriously and I generally like that. For the most part. There are many situations that were always considered "normal"...

*sigh* Got another bit of life drama, this time negative. If not my own. But that's kind of the problem I've got with it. So there is a person I know, and like. We aren't REAL close, but we see one another at lots of events, and we're on the "friend" end of "friendly acquaintances." This...

Oh, in other news related to my kiddo... He asked me for a new hoodie (no big deal) and he saw one for sale online that he really liked, and sent me the link to it. It was a VERY cool looking hoodie. It was $35 with free shipping. OK. I don't buy the boy clothes that often, and his old...

Yesterday...*sigh*... I felt like I did SO MUCH DRIVING. OK so actually I want to math this up. Drove to work: 15 minutes. Drove back home to pick up Q: 20 minutes. Drove Q down to the World Arena because his orchestra was performing for his high school's graduation: 40 minutes. Drove back...

Well it sucks for everybody. But I figure, there's no un-ringing the bell right? So all that we can do is "be the change." Personally, while I get the frustration from both ends, my own approach to it is to try and connect with people-as-people, and have healthier interactions when I can. I...

One angle I just thought of on this... You know how many police officers are perfectly decent human beings that you can interact with probably and not have any issue? At least, that's been my experience, right? How many times do you think you'd have to be seriously threatened or scared or...

I find it interesting how people of different backgrounds have different skills when it comes to interpretation and use of all the non-verbal stuff. I had erratic, sometimes abusive parents. Like sometimes when things were good, they were loving and wonderful, but when Mom was angry, or Dad...

Gah. Unbelievable. Like it's bad enough people think such things, but the nerve you've gotta have, to walk up and say something like that to anyone... I guess I'm discovering how an awful lot of the time, I lack a frame of reference to understand how a lot of people think and feel, having...

You know, it might be a matter of social skills diminishing in the younger generation in general. A thought worth thinking about, I guess. I'm meeting more and more young people who identify as introverts. And just as I'm meeting a lot of males who say that they feel socially awkward, or...

Thanks, Mags! I just get so damned frustrated I guess, because you know, when I was a kid, I remember something, I heard my Grandfather say something incredibly racist at one point, and I clearly recall thinking, "How horrible...at least he's old. Only old people think such things. One day...

Oh, and Zen and I started watching a Netflix documentary show thing called "Wild Wild Country" which is about the Rajneeshees, or "Osho" commune people who tried to build a city in Oregon some time ago. We are 2 episodes in, and I'm already pissed off at white, rural, Christian, 'Murican types...

That's why I started off with "what exactly are we talking about here?" Because I don't think, trying to put myself in the shoes of a man, that showing some friendliness to a woman that I find attractive would be an issue, I would just try to be aware of what she's signalling as to whether my...

Let's see, I haven't really updated this since the weekend. I got all the prep done and the packing, and sent my older son off to Job Corps, in Anaconda, Montana, or rather a few miles up the mountain from that little "Northern Exposure" looking town. He really did need my help with the...

So the thing is, when we are talking about dismissive cues and men being persistent or pursuing women, what exactly are we talking about here? I feel we might not be talking about the same behaviors. Most women are willing to give a guy the benefit of the doubt (if he seems nice or especially...

Yeah, his work really captures some of the coolest scenery of the area, and the best colors. But what I love is that so many of them look like they must have been taken way out in the wilderness, miles and miles from civilization, and many of them weren't! A lot of them were taken at open...

Oh, feel free. Believe me, I do NOT take my community for granted. The funny thing is, Colorado Springs is a middling sized city, with a very conservative reputation because we have a couple of big evangelist organizations headquartered here (Focus on the Family, and New Life Church come to...

OK things are alright. I refuse to worry about the damn washer at this moment, I'll let that be a problem for next week. Tomorrow will still be a busy day, but Zen can help if we need him to. My volunteer training stuff went well last night. I was learning a bit of software we use for some...

The logistics are getting sorted, but I still don't know where washer repair fits...maybe after I get Ninja out the door... I ran home on my lunch break, and was asked if I might be able to help Ninja's friend-girl move out of her dorm on Friday, too. I was like NO. And you could not have...