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I feel this one. I brush aside some of the comments that upset me as allowing my husband, Basketball, to adjust, but he'll make comments about me and my priorities and how they need to be the family --- but in my eyes I want ALL of my boyfriends to be family. Everyone is priority. The only...

COngratulations!!!!! I'm glad it went well! My sister and my mom both know and my sister is and has always been 100% supportive of me. She's always known I was different, wasn't shocked at all to hear I was bisexual polyamorous and she's pretty open minded in general. My mom is trying - her...

My kids have seen my boyfriends on facetime, know we are really close, know I have gone to visit them and my daughter knows how I feel about them and that my girlfriend was in fact my girlfriend. I honestly think the biggest counter to that is continue to show them the relationship you have...

Al - I wanted to say I have always enjoyed your post and your journey and your words have been helpful for me - the wife on the poly side of the relationship. Thank you!

Welcome to the forums! I know how you feel. When I was 18 I loved two guys and would have loved to have been with them both!

Well I certainly wouldn't' call you a homewrecker. Their issues have nothing to do with you. Welcome to the forum regardless! I would say that whether or not you stay with your BF is something you will have to explore based on your personal needs and boundaries. That's not an easy answer...

There is technically advice in reminding someone that someone else's posts to do have value, or more value than you might think. Since this is a community of people who are in all stages of their poly journey, their advice will likely be from that viewpoint. Equally, the members of this forum...

I think for me, deep down, there has always been a piece of me that has known when it 'wasn't really right' and while I purposefully ignored that to enjoy the NRE, I wasn't shocked or surprised (still hurt though) when things ended. Like, I could enjoy the falling in love and the NRE, but knew...

My boyfriend and I have been together a year and a half now. We see each other every other month or so. I wish we could more but scheduling and such and I fly since it's not close enough to drive. I've just begun a new relationship that is long distance as well but I already feel like it's...

Just. Wow. XXXX. That. I'd be LIVID if one of partners said that about any of my other partners. They don't have to find them attractive, they don't have to like them, but to tell me I am repulsive? wow.

Sometimes the break-up happens first, before the next partner is 'found,' as well. I don't know exactly where my saturation limit lies, but I'm starting to believe I might be at it, simply because of the type of men I become attached to. I have a husband of 18 years, who for most of our...

THIS. We spent too much time worrying about everyone else. But I tell my kids all the time. "Whose behavior are you responsible for? Can you control your brother or your sister or your friend? No. YOU are responsible for you." And that's what applies here. You can't control their...

. End it. He doesn't have respect for your boundaries or your health. If you don't want to end it, then hold to your boundary that you won't bond with someone who isn't being safe and protecting you. But lying? If he's STILL lying even after this, how can you ever really trust him?

This is the reason my boyfriend doesn't want to talk to his parents either. It isn't that they would love him less, he just knows he'll never hear the end of it. It kinda sucks because I'd love to meet his family and all that. I don't want to have to hide who I am either, but I'm not super...

I think I'm a little confused at where everyone is? I read this as FP is in the US with Baby and you are in the UK. But not? Regardless -- Technically, you don't have any legal rights to a step-child, so you are at the whims and decisions of the biological mother. While this may be...

Why can't your gf give you some attention?

This really stood out to me, and not in a positive way. For me, that type of statement seems to relegate the person to a role that is pre-defined for them without their input, knowing anything about them or considering their needs in a relationship. I would encourage your husband to learn more...

I think poly/NRE/relationships like anything else takes time, practice and effort. And making mistakes. Just because you handled NRE horribly the first time doesn't mean you will repeat the same mistake over and over and over. That's implying that like everything else in life we experience...

You can speak freely here. You are anonymous, as are the rest of us. No one here is an expert - I certain can't claim to be - and even those people who are experienced still have things to learn. I learn by reading a lot of the threads here, and I definitely suggest that for you as well. How...

Thank you for the positive story!!!