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Threats are honestly a form of emotional abuse and manipulation. If she's doing that, you have to stop and consider the impact that has on both your and your children's mental health. I apologize if it seemed like we jumped on, but poly is something we can be sensitive about, especially...

You're emotional because you're feeling loss and feelings aren't logical or rational. They just are. They're ok to feel. And feelings are valid. What you have control over is your actions. You can say "I am feeling this, and I need some time to process, the appropriate actions until then...

Welcome to the forum and glad to have you!

Her setting the parameters of her relationship with someone else independent of you is fine. If you are uncomfortable with what she sets, you have two options: talk it out, but accept what she wants or leave and find what you want. You don't have the right to tell her what to do anymore than...

Welcome to the forum! I'm a bisexual poly woman with a husband, kids, and a bf/gf triad! I'd love to answer any questions you have.

Please also remember that there is another person, a third person, involved when your wife is with him and his needs and desires are important too. Requiring that you be there when your wife is exploring with someone else isn't just impacting her, it's impacting him as well and that is no less...

Obviously, I was the one who introduced it, given I replied in your thread. I don't know that it's that more woman are poly or that men who are may struggle even more to introduce it because woman tend to be really insecure at times? I can't really say. I had been HOPING my husband would for...

Popping in to say hi, welcome to the forum, and hope you find the resources your need as well. I've concluded that I can't be monogamous either and I don't think I could live that way anymore. You definitely have to be true to yourself, but lots of respect for how you've been working to be...

So, not my first/primary and not my experience coming out, but with my boyfriend (online only at the time) he began to get close to someone else. This wasn't exactly a completely big deal in that we were online and poly and didn't have restrictions or anything. He would tell me they were doing...

Well to start. Relationships aren't just for 'fun'. Relationships are had work with amazing rewards if you put in that work. If he's just trying to have some 'fun' he'll hurt both his partners. You most DEFINITELY should have a relationship with the other husband that YOU feel comfortable...

I am the wife who had a monogamous 15 year relationship before finally understanding my unhappiness was because I was poly and constantly fighting feelings of being in love with someone else as well. My husband didn't react well at first either and went through a long year of insecurity, which...

I understand what you're feeling because I also really struggled with wanting more and dreaming about more and didn't know how to bring it up to my husband either, because what will happen if they take it wrong? Will you hurt your current relationship? It is a lot to think about, but a lot of...

Welcome to the site! I agree that does seem very fast, especially as you're starting to feel worried. Have you talked to your partners about those feelings? Perhaps they can reassure you? If you're feeling like something is wrong, don't ignore it. We should always recognize our feelings...

Welcome! I LOVE "more than two!" I'm reading it as well with my triad and we're around chapter 12 or so. Look around as lots of people have posted stories and questions and discussions :)

Welcome to the forum, Astirarose! There are plenty of people here with all ranges of experiences. Hopefully we can help answer questions as you transition into something new!

So what I'm reading is that you've met someone besides your husband to have a poly relationship with, and you also know his wife, but don't think his wife will be ok with the relationship? "I don't think his wife is going to go for it" "he's had relationships and sex outside of his marriage...

Ah, it's easy to say let's be open and when you're the one being the open one. Harder when it's suddenly your partner. That being said, you both agreed to open the relationship and she was equal part in that. Address her jealousy and anger in a healthy way. She's probably feeling insecure...

Welcome back! I'm new to the site myself so I don't recall from before, but I'm always open to discuss relationships with anyone! Mono or poly!

That sounds like a really good idea. Because 'allowing' means he's asking permission, and in true poly you have the right to your own relationships and to decide what those are. Have you heard of the following book? If not, I highly recommend it. It will help you work through the situation you...

I agree with vinsanity0 on this one. This right here means he's operating in a hierarchy, and his wife's needs are more important over all than yours. It would be different if he said, "I can't meet you this weekend because I made plans with my wife." He does need to spend time with her as...