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It’s kind of ironic that I stumbled across this thread today. I don’t usually post but keep up by lurking a lot, but I haven’t even lurked for a couple of weeks. I’m having a really hard time right now because this exact topic destroyed my quad 13 days ago. We had been together for the past...

I don't feel like I'm forcing things with Heath, but I have told him what I do want out of a relationship with him. It's not that Heath doesn't want to give me more, it's the fact that he feels like he's just a roommate, and someone to help with the kids, to Nora, and not a husband. She is not...

Thanks Minxxa. Boy, I have read almost everything there is. I had actually thought that a lot of the NRE had been over with them, or at least diminished.

I am looking for some advice with the current situation that we are struggling with. My husband and I have been in a quad for a year now and, of course, we’ve all had our ups and downs. We’ll call my husband Matt, husband’s girlfriend Nora, and her husband/my boyfriend Heath. I recently had a...

That's right. Unless we are alone with our OSOs, you wouldn't know anything. But, we do have some boundaries on our alone time, as well. We usually have one night a week where there are no boundaries, but there are also other sporadic times when we will go for a drink or stop by each other's...

And I think it is totally acceptable for it to be that way for a while. We've been doing this for almost 8 months and we still don't show any affection... and that is OK for us now. Who knows how long it will take to move to another level of openness for us and for your situation? One lesson...

I may be a little late posting here but here's my two cents. I'm currently part of a quad that is made up of two married couples. My husband and I were friends with our other couple for quite awhile before all this began almost 8 months ago. We have children that are close in age and hung out...

One thing that I do want to make clear is that when I said he would want to end the relationships it would be only the ones outside our marraige. I am not afraid of him wanting to end our marraige.

Wow, I really wasn't expected so many diverse responses in such a small amount of time. I thank everyone for their opinions. I haven't done anything about it yet. Life just has gone on as normal yesterday and today. I am still debating whether to just let it go or not. The fact that Bob sent...

I agree that it isn't in itself a reason to be suspicious. I haven't ever asked or demanded to see things. He has told me that he doesn't want me to see. But I wish he were more open and could just lay everything on the table. It's not like I want to know every little detail about their...

To begin with, our marriage was actually at one of the best places it could be when we all started this and it has strengthened since. We've been married almost 12 years and together for 17. Even taking in consideration what this post is is all about, our communication and openness is the best...

Thanks, Sage. I really wish I didn't have the urge to check in on him, but I do. When he has found out about it in the past, he has became very very angry. Although I want to bring this up with him, and let him know how much I do know, I really don't want to rock the boat. There have been some...

Hi, Just like a lot of others here, I have been lurking for a while but have never posted. But of course I have a dilemma and would like some other opinions on it. Let's begin with some background. My husband Bob and I have been in a quad relationship for about 7 months now with another...