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Thanks all. The feedback is appreciated. We had a nice dinner. Ethan’s GF actually made it on an earlier flight home and joined us for dinner (no objection, as she’s super sweet and fun and non-judgmental). We had really nice conversation and food and it was a nice opportunity to kind of...

This is all great advice. I have a lot of thinking to do. You're spot on right that I'm still very stressed and anxious about the cleanup of the other situation. However, Ethan has never been anything but friendly and sweet (if not a little flirty, but not in a bad way) when I've been around...

That makes perfect sense. I didn't think of it that way. And when we've been at the same events (which doesn't happen particularly often, but here and there), he and I have always gotten along well (and I like his GF a lot too, on a friendship level of course). So, maybe it's worth a try...

True story on every level. I just don't want to move too fast and into territory I didn't originally intend to enter. I appreciate the feedback and advice. It is very helpful.

Ok, I really hate to do this, as I know this site isn't a source of free therapy, it's a forum. But You all have been helpful and friendly, particularly with questions for those less experienced in this area. Of course, our first crack at Poly crashed and burned hard core and we're still...

Very good points and the advice is much appreciated. Will do.

Thank you so much!

Yep, it’s an Apple. We’ll have to go over it carefully tomorrow. We did file a police report. The officer who came over explained the process to deal with it going forward. Very helpful. He also explained that even though Braden still has some stuff at our place, we’re under no obligation to...

The saga continues. I don't know what we've gotten ourselves into here. We may have to get authorities involved, which I really don't want to do. Braden has been messaging non-stop the last few days and I've been simply ignoring them. Last night, we went out after work for a few drinks and...

Thank you for the kind words. All of you all's advice and support has been so helpful. I agree that I have to strengthen my personal boundaries. It's such a shame because, in addition to feeling bad for Adam's loss here, Braden was kind of my first true "hang-out friend" since we moved here. (I...

Yeah, I never thought he’d stoop to that level. I truly hoped we could patch things up, but the pet thing is a line in the sand. Amazon just delivered a portable security camera. 😕 Better luck next time, I suppose!

Thank you so much for your feedback. While it’s quite depressing that it didn’t work out, it was a learning experience. So not a total waste. I appreciate your suggestions. Hopefully the next try goes better. :)

Well, you guys were totally right. We came home from our trip, and Braden insisted on picking us up at the airport and brought breakfast and an apology for his behavior. Adam said we should give him another chance, so I agreed. We then had a great couple days, with him coming and going and...

Oh my goodness. I don’t know how much I can take lol. So Braden’s pets and our pets don’t get along. That was known following thanksgiving. I had misgivings about his offer to pet sit since it was clear he would be pet sitting over a holiday. Adam insisted he’d be perfect since he had pets of...

True story! We’re getting there 😊 Looking forward to a quiet weekend with friends in Indiana. Thanks and happy new year!

Thanks Magdlyn. I agree that Braden was jumping to conclusions here. I just have a bad habit of always trying to be a “fixer.” I need to work on that. I’ve run into the same situation in non poly/sexual situations too. I guess I just focus too much on other people being happy all the time and...

Thank you so much, Galagirl. Your reply put a lot in context. I really appreciate it. I’ve got some adjusting to do.

Thank you so much for this thoughtful reply. It all makes a lot of sense and puts some things into context. Unfortunately, despite the fact that things were going so well for a few days, I have a feeling this isn’t going to last between Adam and Braden. They clearly have different expectations...

Yeah, I wasn’t a big fan of his response. But he’s come around over the past few days. They’ve only been sleeping together or having sex in the guest room. Braden came over on Christmas (his whole family lives out of state, as do both Adam and mine) and we did presents, dinner and watched...

All very valid points. I really appreciate your candid and honest replies. It’s very helpful. Adam and I had a talk about things yesterday and it didn’t go well. He seems to think that the bed boundary is invalid and it caused a major argument. Guess I’ll have to think about my next move. It’ll...