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On this, I think maybe your second to last paragraph may hit the nail on the head. I've realized I'm a huge compersion person. I love seeing him happy with other guys, whether emotionally or sexually. So it's not envy or jealousy. I have seen pics of the other guy. He and I have similar...

Thank you so much for taking all the time you did to respond to my posts. It is extremely helpful and educational for a newbie. I agree that finding out if the other hubby knows about the plan is paramount. I hate the idea of it being a true poly situation on one side and cheating on the...

Thanks KDT. You kind of read my mind there as those are largely the same questions coming to my mind. I think the plan is that if things go well, regular Indy trips are in the cards. He's even talked about a weekend in Indy BEFORE the Florida trip to make sure they really want to do this. I...

So, things have taken a bit of a twist. For background, we moved from Indianapolis to Dallas 4 years ago. We’ve been sexually open for about 12 years. There’s a guy in Indianapolis who my husband used to hook up with occasionally (who is also in an open relationship) and they still talk...

Thanks a bunch 😊 while he’s disappointed, he’s being realistic about it and I’m being supportive. He’s joined multiple local poly FB groups and is exploring that but not being over the top about it. I guess it’s a learning experience for the both of us. And we have both been reading “Opening Up”...

So, to update, the Tuesday date went well overall. I didn’t overreact and they seemed to have a good time. However at the end of the day, the other guy kind of decided that being in a relationship with someone who is in a relationship with someone else just isn’t for him. No drama or anything...

Thanks for that! Two copies will be arriving via Amazon tomorrow :) And yeah, unfortunately, after we moved from Indiana to Texas 4 years ago, our sex life became somewhere between pathetic and non-existent. He just never was interested anymore. So, the renewed effort is encouraging. Again...

Haha yeah, I do. He's getting better, but it's a process. He's been very open and honest about this particular guy that he wants to date, so we're getting there. But, if things go south, we'll definitely bring in a professional to help. I guess we'll just have to see how Tuesday goes and see...

That's a great article and I think hits the nail on the head. As a bisexual man, I can see how the two intersect, but I like that they define them as distinct concepts and not inherently linked. It's all a personal choice along with your partner(s)

Yeah, I’m both anxious and excited. I’m anxious because of some of the past dishonesty but I am optimistic that he means it when he says he’ll put in 110% effort. I think as long as we take it slow and communicate, this could be a positive for our relationship. And the community on this site has...

Makes sense. Thanks for the advice! He has a bachelors in psychology so he is very open to therapy. We may have to turn down that road. Guess we’ll see!

Yeah, and where my family tended to over-communicate, in his family the expectation was to bury anything emotional and not talk about it. I still think we can make it work, but I may have to pry communication out of him. lol. We've talked at length about communication and the expectations. He...

Thank you, Kevin! I’ve read the term mono-poly and kind of felt like it applies to us. Thank you for the great advice. Though he has agreed to communicate fully and step it up in that area, I do think it will be the one challenge as he seems to struggle with being comfortable communicating...

Thank you so much for such a thoughtful response! :) It would definitely be a V arrangement as I'm personally not interested (at least at the moment) in an emotional relationship with anyone else (but as mentioned earlier, I'm open to the concept for him). You gave me a lot to think about...

Thanks for the reply. That's a very good point. I'm not particularly opposed to him bringing a guy home after a date. Just use the guest room so I can sleep in my normal bed. As for telling family and friends, I think I'd let him take the lead on that since he's the one who's poly. I will...

Hey all, So I'm new to this forum. For background. we're a same-sex couple in Texas (48 and 35). Been together for 16 years. My husband is poly and I've known that from the beginning, but he just finally admitted it to himself after attending some poly sessions at a LGBTQ conference...