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This has been the advice of those close to me too - to let go and walk away. So it's interesting and helpful to see this perspective being shared by you also. These are definitely the kinds of things I'm thinking about and stuck on. It's not so much about personal satisfaction for me, though...

Right? That's my perspective, also. I feel like any conflict between FP and I should be between FP and I, and separate from the relationship between Baby and I. Thank you! Ha... Made me laugh!

Definitely. I definitely don't want Baby to be caught in the middle of a tug of war. I don't want her to be around any conflict or toxicity, or to be pulled from pillar to post. Ok, thanks very much for this! I want to do what is best for Baby, 100%. This is such a new and fresh situation for...

Thanks, NP. Yeah, fairly recent - mid-January, so about 4.5 months. Thank you for your understanding and advice on this! I really appreciate it. I think one of my fears is that with the way NP is, she will find fault and use it against me no matter what. It doesn't matter what I do. Any time...

You've got it - I'm in the UK and FP is in the US with Baby. Moon is also in the US (I met her 1.5 years ago when I was over there visiting). Thank you for your words on this, your understanding, and your advice!

Hello everyone!!! I used to post here regularly, and it's been quite a while!! I'm hoping that you are all doing fantastically well, both new and old members! ;) Just a brief bit of background, and then an update and question! <3 I was in a poly V for six years. It was long-distance - me in...

I find this situation unhealthy, yes. I completely agree. Haha, yes, I really do! :) We both have definite issues with boundaries. I've been consciously aware of mine for about a year and am still trying hard to work on them. It's the main reason I posted this thread, to be honest. Do you...

Thanks so much for the perspective guys, I really appreciate it. This is a really helpful way to put it, thank you for this, AL. You raise a very good point that has reset my thought process on this in a very good way. Something I have always struggled with is feeling like I can literally feel...

Hi guys, My partner (GF) broke up with her long-term submissive/boyfriend (Garcon) 48 hours ago and things are rough. It's not the first time they've broken up, but it seems like this time it might perhaps be final. She's understandably very upset and I'm trying to be there to support her...

You're so very welcome!! I'm so glad to hear that it struck a chord with you and your boyfriend and that it's given you some positive motivation going forward!

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Hi Reyzur, From what you've said here, these don't sound like insecurities. They sound like well-founded symptoms of unhappiness in your relationship. I can't answer for your boyfriend, but I can say that when I'm in love with someone and they ask for assurance, this is not my response. My...

Hi NP, You're both in a difficult situation, for sure. I can absolutely understand how you are feeling, having had one 5-year relationship with someone who suffered from what I believe was untreated depression, anxiety and even some OCD, and having a current partner of 5 years who has both...

Hi Rocket, I've been in a long-distance relationship for going on 5 years. It's super long-distance - we live on opposite sides of the Atlantic, and visa options are somewhat grim. Pretty much every relationship I've been in has had at least 2 hours of travel time difference. So, yes, you could...

Hi Jacob, I'm really sorry that you are having to deal with this. People make bad choices and none of us are perfect. I try to approach these bad choices with compassion and forgiveness and try to drop judgement, despite cheating and dishonesty being two of the things I absolutely and...

Hi! My main partner and I have considered getting some sort of connected tattoo before to represent the kind of thing you are talking about, but have decided that it's not the best way forward for us. It's a personal choice and I think there's nothing at all wrong with doing it if you want to...

Hi KGM, You are so very welcome! I'm sorry - yes! NRE is New Relationship Energy. And good stuff on learning the word compersion!... ~grins~ It's wonderful to hear that your husband is as open to putting effort into your marriage as you are whilst you explore polyamory together. I hope you...

Hi KGMlove, You have received some wonderful advice already and there is little I can add that would be any different, but I believe in support by numbers, so I'd like to offer my contribution too and let you know that you're not at all alone in what you are feeling! The main point that I...

Hi AJM, Oh yes, I hear you! It can be really rough when this happens. I've dealt with it myself too. I'm female and only date females, whilst my main partner is female but primarily dates men. My dating pool is simply smaller than hers is. When my online dating profile was set to bisexual, I...

Hi polypet, I can completely understand why your situation is upsetting for you. I'm interested to understand more. Under what circumstances does it get rubbed in your face? What brings it up? What kind of things are said?