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If a person is willing to lie to a partner about having an affair...and this guy is a liar by defintion...then he'll be just as quick to lie about safe sex and a lack there of. Your wife could be exposing you to a world of very real and physical danger. They both need to be a bit more adult...

Burlesque loving :) Wow, what a night of great shows, friends, family, metamours and sexy confident women! Last night Redpepper had a Xmas burlesque show and she rocked, as per usual. :) Her husband, PN, was there, along with Derby and her husband, me, and several good friends, to show our...

I'm glad to hear this Love ;)

If you have to keep your heart on a leash, you might be in a monogamous relationship but you aren't monogamous. I can't imagine that situation would be healthy for either of you. It looks to me like your husband was really hoping for a very one sided open relationship...a One Penis Policy...

Great advice! I've acted on new emotion and thoughts far too quickly in the past. With a little time, things can look and feel much differently.

welcome to the forum.....it's a bit late but still :)

In our local community there doesn't seem to be a lot of interest in even co-cohabitation let alone marriages for the most part. There is a few who would like to get married and there is also a fair number of "default" hierarchies due to legal marriages. I'm not that surprised as forming a...

You sang incredibly, beautiful, and based on my sneak peek of your show it's going to be a great night of tassel-spinning burlesque!

Continuing to learn :) Last night, PN, LB and Redpepper's parents and I went to watch her sing in her choir at a local theatre. It was a great show and the entire family was very proud of our beloved Redpepper. :) Afterwards, PN went dancing with friends and Redpepper headed off to a "poly"...

I wondered what happened to you Sage..so I read your blog ;) Take care and be well my friend :)

Weehooo!!!

And so the Xmas season begins! Today we will be going over to decorate a tree with Redpepper's hubby's mom and stepdad. This will be the second year in a row and is a reminder of just how supportive they have been to our family. :) Between Xmas and New Years we will head over to RP's parents'...

I just friended you on here..now you can really meet me.. The pleasure is all mine ;)

I was referring to a stalement in moving towards a more open relationship, not that the relatiiosnhip was stale or boring. I wasn't taking away from the seriousness of the situation but I did enjoy the mental imagery that was painted. I also laugh when people stub thier toes and hit thier...

While I don't see DADT as a method to create greater connection in a primary relationship I also don't discount it as a coping method either. To me it is like declaring an "open relationship" that does not include communication about some things that happen. I think if people are at a stalemate...

haha!! This is the best laugh I've had on here in a long time...thanks!

Wow..some friend...but besides that. I know you want this to work and I know this is your first relationship. I'm trying not to be defeatist but you have to realize that this process you are going through will likely be a continual one. These feelings of him taking on another lover will be felt...

Excellent points, NYC! I think you nailed the reasons. You are right that there has to be an initial understanding/agreement about what "moving forward" is in order for this to be a valid approach. Sometimes people assume they know where things are going but without extreme clarity that can be...

Coercion. If you were having sex with your boyfriend and not him, then I could see his point.

This is very important to acknowledge. I fully appreciate the strain on the poly partner's end of the situation. I am truly gald that you are both finding happiness and benefits in this journey :) Your thread was the perfect spot to express and explore this idea for me. Thanks!