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I would say push it and see how she reacts. She has no ground to stand on. Her behavior is very "toddlerish" if that is a word.

Yup :) I work in a completely mono culture (on the outside... what people do in reality is far more diverse, I'm sure). The guys I ride with are all in the mono culture, and many of my close friends are very mono. The thing is, I have never been fully a part of any large community. If...

Three words of advice..."tell your wife". No offence, but your skirting with affairs and from your wife's perspective you've probably already engaged in emotional ones. Nothing good will come of hiding this. P.S. Not all guys struggle with monogamy, but very few people are actually lifelong...

I like labels for many things. PN is more into getting away from them. But I understand the reasoning and think he and Redpepper are very wise in wanting to see past them. I am monogamous and proud of it. :)

I think this is a very important point. Being consumed by "what might have been" can almost become an addictive behaviour. It can lead to the erosion of present happiness as we live in either the past of possible future.

Redpepper and I had a great discussion today about the compromises we make to be together. This was sparked by some new posts around mono/poly relationships. One of the things brought up was her asking what if about relationships that have possibly passed her by due to our compromises. What...

Woohoo!!

I had a fun time actually. Isort of gave me a sense of how supportive our "tribe" can be. I think all the kids involved are going to grow up with a much broader idea of family. I wonder what they will think when they are our age :)

Busy Busy! What full weekend :) I've been heavily distracted by the Poly calendar portal site which is now up and growing! Redpepper and I had a great Weekend starting on Friday and I got lots of time with LB and some time with Derby's kids too :):)

I'm not sure if it is too much...but what's the purpose?

San Fran Bay Area, North West Washington, Vancouver, Victoria, Nanaimo and growing!! Great idea Lilo!!

Our community is full of such diversity that I think the idea of us all "cliqueing" for lack of a real term is very unlikely. The important thing is that there are times and values that bind us in one common fundamental thought - people should be free to be themselves. It is important to...

Very cool!! Sounds great TP :)

How important is self esteem in the creation of healthy, loving relationships? I think it is imperative to a healthy relationship. It allows a person to assert themselves and avoid intentional or unintentional manipulation or forced suffering because they don't feel they deserve better. How is...

That's an interesting theory. It also predates modern history or even medieval history in that lineage has often been tied to inheritance and positions of authority...think royalty, kings, chieftains and such. I'm certainly not saying that all cultures practiced that but a lot of the more...

I've been that person and have written a lot about it on here. Over two and a half years after the affair and I still can't forgive myself for hurting someone I didn't even know (her husband). It's not worth it...it damages you.

Anniversary time Redpepper and Polynerdist are celebrating their 10-year anniversary tonight! I am watching over my Little Buddy so they can go out for dinner and a walk. This is the third anniversary they have shared with me in their life. It feels good to know we are all so close and so...

Nice Profile pic:) ...Phy??

Three words - mono relationship experience I know you've probably already heard me say this in comments but: Having a healthy traditional mono relationship was critical for me. I achieved and experienced things in a unique way that I could not have done in a relationship with a shared partner...

There is a list somewhere I believe...hmmm I'll dig around!