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Do you think it wise to go out all three? If you want to really foster a workable relationship than the best thing to do would be to start building a relationship with her as individuals because I can assure you one thing, this 'we'+ her stuff won't go anywhere.

It's pretty cool.

My point is there was little need for critique in the first place, you made an assumption based upon the way the OP was written, I just saw floral language, you otoh saw an insult were probably none was meant. Better to at least ask than assume the worst and come across like a rude person. I...

Thank you Scarletzinnia but I wouldn't want to give the wrong impression, I can be impatient too and I am far from being a really helpful person on this forum, but I can't stand it when people are being pointlessly rude and there simply was no reason to respond to the OP like that. :mad:

(((hugs)))) Good Luck :) Life is an adventure eh? Let's enjoy it!

You're welcome Hydracorn, My only concern is the excessive fantasising about how great a triad is (it isn't all that, trust me) and the idea that somehow your ideas of it all being equal etc is unique (again, that is the idealised norm) so, just spend a little more time reading about triads...

Hey Dom, welcome. Don't focus on some sort of ideal configuration of Poly, triads are not the best way to do Poly or the easiest. Instead learn about yourself and your relationship, learn about how to communicate and how to be independent within a relationship before you start thinking about...

OMG, some people are just real gits you know that? This woman was obviously upset and jealous and self aware enough to say so! Do you know how many people we get here who lack self awareness and come on here demonising metamours because they don't realise that the problem lies with them and...

Cor I can't STAND him My BFF has entered into a bad rebound relationship. When she met him last year he marriage was failing, we met him at an event we were at but I advised her not to get too involved with him whilst still married, she needed to sort out her failing marriage first, a fling...

Chance would be a fine thing.

Exactly. It doesn't matter if the science is a bit overcautious anyway. Science says there is a RISK of my baby dying if she is left to sleep on her tummy, or there is a RISK if I drink/smoke in pregnancy. The risk might be small, but it is not worth me taking it just because it is small and the...

Scarletzinnia, very few people (if any) have the same view about herpes as London does. As far as I know, she is the only person who keeps bleating on about how small the risk of herpes is. I, and many other people, disagree with her very strongly on that. I know it is your thread, but don't...

When did this thread become another thread about Unicorns? Can we have just one blinkin thread about configurations that is not centred around bloody Unicorns and their hunters?

Not just men, that line brings on a gag reflex with me too...I hate over processing and analysing every little tiny thing that happens in a relationship, why can't people just enjoy the people they are with I'll never know.....

Also remember colloquialisms are particular to different regions. We don't tend to use 'retarded' in that way so using that term in a general way would not evoke the same emotional reaction as it does to Americans. When I was a child the term they used over here was Spastic if anyone did...

I think the 'girls' he speaks of are the children.

Ah well, I appreciate the desire for a particular relationship type, I am not into the Primary/Secondary model either, but a family form of Poly only works if all parties wish to get along and be respectful to one another, if you do not have that than it is not a functional relationship and it...

Just FYI, I know three people who got herpes through sex. I have a degree in a biological science. There is no reason to fail to disclose because viruses are 'hard to catch.' The OP and husband did the right thing for themselves. People are free to take the risk if they choose, with informed...

Ah interesting, as usual there is always more than one side to a story...I take back my accusation of Assholism that was unfair of me. Ok, well, I can see why you would want a 'family' style dynamic if you are pressed for time to be away from home, but sometimes that just isn't possible...

Ah ok, I think that is one of those lost in translation jokes! ;)