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Your feelings are quite normal. You probably feel left out when your wife steps out on her own and has experiences without you. You also may be feeling that the men that get to be with her when you are gone are not paying the "toll" so to speak. Namely you get to have sex with their...

I would absolutely NOT move her in. Maybe she wouldn't want to. The first thing you should do is look up the term "triad" or "unicorn" and READ EVERYTHING you can about the difficulties that are common in such scenarios.

Part of the problem is that you are sharing very intimate information about your husband and he does not want that. It doesn't matter that it's on FetLife or that you two are virtually strangers to most of the community. You already feels inferior sexually because of what you are writing and now...

I know the type and the only way to deal with them is a complete cold shoulder. You have to be harsh and cruel and make it known that you want them out of your life. Your lover apparently is unable to do that and so he acts as a channel for her to get into your life.

So many questions need to be answered before you can be helped. Is this truly a triad? Are all three of you romantically and sexually involved with one another? Or is it that this relationship is a vee? That is, you have a separate relationship with each of the women but the women are not...

I cringed a little myself at the comparison. But it was the best I could come up with at the time when trying to grasp for an explanation of shoving someone into a situation where everyone knows what the outcome will be.

the cheating was referring to being with another woman while still "married" even though they really have no relationship left and don't even cohabitate

This is bizarre to me. Your husband wants you to be monogamous but he keeps pushing you into situations that require you to open yourself up emotionally and physically in order to practice your fetishes. It is very apparent that in order for you to feel safe in those scenarios you want to create...

Multiple experiences over the last year, some of which are still painful, that I'm trying to sort out. I may start a blog eventually, but alas, cannot share at the moment.

Do you believe in karma? If so, do you believe that karma has a mystical element to it or does it come from simply reaping what you sow? I believe there are two camps. The mystical camp believes that there is an energy or supernatural force that keeps a system of checks and balances which...

I've had a few things happen in my life that are spawning some thoughts that I would like to share. This installment is about neediness. Have any of you been in a relationship with someone who becomes needy, either because you have withdrawn a bit due to time constraints, or emotionally, due...

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you are making a huge and selfish mistake. I can't believe you would do this for some overseas guy. I'm sorry, I believe in self determination but this is NRE through and through. When you wake up from your nre you will have to spend a large portion of your life justifying that what you did...

I would claim that she is threatening and unstable to the relationship not him. She broke your rules not him. If she wants him more than you and he "steals" her from you there is no rule that will prevent that from happening. So the breaking of these rules have more to do with...

A good question to ask is if you both practice poly and she has other men already, why do you feel it necessary to have a constant leash on her? Is it really natural and necessary for her to have to get your blessing for every step of the way in every relationship? Relationships that are hers...

If you are afraid to change your relationship then stop this instant. I guarantee you that if you pursue this with either of them then your relationships will be irrevocably changed. These are BIG issues. 1. Poly by itself is huge and simply revealing your desire for it will likely make...

I admire your attitude. I see myself in you but am unable to muster the courage to do so. I imagine you must have difficulties living true to your ideal.

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I congratulate you. You should be very proud of yourself for doing something that very few people can do so early in the game. Namely you are taking responsibility for your feelings and not blaming her for them. Perhaps you can come to terms with the relationship better if you were to spend some...

If you are looking for a triad I'm assuming that this means you are looking for a woman to join your marriage. Could your triad have another man involved? I understand why people look for a triad. they think it will prevent anyone from feeling left out. But that is not always the case because...