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So I talked to Alex last night. Turns out he had tried calling me, and my phone had no signal so it went straight to voicemail. I told him how it bothered me that I had to wait for his call at all. He apologized. Tonight we have plans to go to dinner and the theater together. With actual...

Okay, I know I'm menstrual and I'm stressed from having been at work 8 days back to back. But I'm seriously upset right now. Alex has been out of town for two weeks, and he just got back last night. I didn't get to see him the night before he left because Jenny wanted him all to herself...

Day 1 of better choices First of all, I want to thank everyone for your outpouring of positivity and support. I need every bit of help I can get. Stoicism is one of my major downfalls. I should explain why I'm doing this now, after I've tried and failed before. It's a combination of little...

There has to be some sort of trick to it, something to uncover that makes it easier--or at least more possible--to feel good. As a bit of background, I have to say that I honestly don't know of a time in my life when I've felt completely well. I'm a complex tower of physical, psychological...

The fact that this exists is one of the reasons why I love the UU. You would never see this in the faith I was raised in. Boo, Martin Luther.

Honestly, I think our culture has reached a decent balance, where we generally accept whatever people do behind closed doors, so long as they think about what they are doing and are self-aware enough to know that it is right for them. I had a casual-sex buddy for a while in college. I told my...

Derby hit the nail on the head. All I want to say is that it's good that you're at least aware of your feelings and actions. Makes it a lot easier to change them. Communicate with your girlfriend. Figure out what you both need moving forward. This will make you feel better, and hopefully...

Welcome... I can tell you, there's plenty to learn here!

I'm an agnostic who practices as a Unitarian Universalist. My boyfriend is a member of a liberal Christian denomination called Christ's Disciples. My girlfriend is Roman Catholic. So I'd have to say no, not all polys are pagans and atheists. However, I heard the same assumption made about...

Maybe being separated from Ward and June is the best thing for now. Obviously there are issues in their marriage that need to be taken care of, and it doesn't seem like they are entirely prepared for a poly relationship at this point. You say you weren't getting enough emotional intimacy from...

Honestly, though, I think most poly people have been mono at some point, if not nominally then at least functionally. I guess it is possible to open someone up to the idea of polyamory even if they come in thinking they're "definitely monogamous." Also, booklady, I know what you mean. I...

I, sadly, have to refuse to tell my parents about my relationship. I came out to my mother about being bisexual three years ago and she has yet to accept the fact, so this is right out. I keep slipping around coworkers though, and then they start asking questions. I have a very good sense that...

I remember this. I get these twinges at the beginning of almost every poly relationship. It sounds like you're having "mine" syndrome--you've found something so precious and wonderful that you want it to be all yours. It happens. It's natural. It just is the big roadblock to you being in...

I'm sensing a phenomenon lately, and I wondered if this had happened to anyone else. About a week ago, I finally got around to changing my relationship status on all my various networking sites. On my OkCupid account, I added a short disclaimer about my views on poly and my place in a poly...

All whatchamacalits are welcome here. Hope you find the answers you seek. :)

Update: So, Alex is officially out of town, which is great because it'll give him time to see his long-distance girlfriend, and it'll give Jenny two weeks with the house to herself. The night before Alex left, I called and asked if I could cook dinner for the both of them (because I knew...

I worked on an editorial board for a literary magazine for several years, so I am always available for proof-reading, editing, or other related tasks. I might even try to pull something together to submit. :)

Do bring this up with the other couple. This is one of the hurdles I had to jump with Alex & Jen. I don't intend to live in this community forever, and I hope to get a two-year teaching commitment in Japan myself. Due to my career needs, I may not live in this town ever again. Alex and Jenny...

First, welcome. Second, I'm sorry you had a bad first experience with polyamory. It's not all like that, I promise! You just have to be on the lookout for people who don't seem to know what polyamory really is. A few months ago I was approached by a couple seeking a unicorn. I figured out...

I think the best way to go about this is to do it in three steps: 1) Separate, get your own places, get some personal space. 2) Untangle your finances, get to a place where you and your husband are living on separate incomes. 3) Get a divorce. This won't mean you love him any less, but it's a...