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  1. Phy

    Finally had the hard talk

    It does not have to be a rule to have common humand sense, don't you think? If we would have an open structure I would not talk about that much, just because it is just natural to look out for your and your partners health.
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    Kids, to have them or not?

    As far as I can see everything involved here, in case you decide that you want to try and have children as a chosen family of 3, you should plan for time together just cohabiting and getting to know each other and see, if you can actually handle living together. If there is a connection between...
  3. Phy

    Kids, to have them or not?

    In our case we are three adults and two toddlers right now. The combination is good, there is never enough time seemingly and the more adults the better. We live together and there is always someone available for the kids. Separate households? No way! You do not have enough time on your hands as...
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    Phy's story - as you like it

    You as well, it is always great to see 'the old folks' around :)
  5. Phy

    A VERY BAD start!

    Yes, this ... Do not do this to other people, please. Who would want to be involved with someone in such a relationship? Your wife will be all over the person as far as she is able to as it sounds. And you and your wife will have so many unspoken things around you that it will suffocate you...
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    A VERY BAD start!

    This is a complicated situation and I am not quite sure how I would react to it. It is the main reason why one should not involve close friends and social circles in such bs. For me it would be important to clear the air. It would not sit well with me to be forbidden to feel comfortable in my...
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    Having kids?? or.. To be or not to be?

    I hate to be the negative voice here, but it could go differently like in our case. My boyfriend was as sure as my husband and I that he wanted kids and all of us were excited and nervous to have our first one together. And then the twins were there and my boyfriend had to recognize that kids...
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    Phy's story - as you like it

    Hey, around again *waves* I happen to tend to procrastinate quite a bit when I have to do stuff on the PC that I just do not like :p That's why I stopped by. Not the best reason, but I felt like posting again. Me too, Jane :) Sometimes everything becomes just too normal in a way, but I remind...
  9. Phy

    A VERY BAD start!

    Well, we are vanilla and living co-primary. But I would say we clearly fit the poly-bill, whatever form it may take in whichever situation. Some sorts of poly are not my deal at all and I would call my men monogamous, or poly-friendly at best and still we call our relationship poly. Poly just...
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    A VERY BAD start!

    Just a quick thought to the 'adoring your husband' comment: Having sex with you without speaking with the other part of the 'package deal' does not come across as a really caring character. And even if you are 'different from other people' concerning your emotional attachment or however you...
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    Phy's story - as you like it

    Hey there, Happy Christmas and New Year and what ever I have missed ;) Still alive, still around now and then. I hope everyone is doing fine. Well, what can I tell you, that wouldn't be a repetition of the last posts. Still don't get enough time with the kids, still don't have enough time for...
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    Tsuki's Hella Long Life Story

    What wonderous developments in your life :o It was really interesting to read about your story and I am wholeheartedly rooting for you on your newfound path to yourself. :) You surely sound happy ^.^
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    Phy's story - as you like it

    Hey there, I hope everyone is doing fine :) Happy update time ^.^ Just joking :p But things are looking good overall. I handed in my final thesis paper on Thursday. Just in time, no rush in the end or nightshifts or anything along those lines. We managed quite well. And it was a thanks to...
  14. Phy

    Poly Parenting

    Congratulations on the birth! What an event and being pregnant adds to that excitement for sure. I can understand that you are feeling insecure and unsure how to act, as this is the first child in the family. Our twins were born a year ago and all three parents were present. Due to blood loss...
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    Is polyamorism in men correlated with sex drive?

    I will re-answer then: I am poly and do not want sex daily. Short period of time maybe but not regular basis. My men are mono and would say the same :) You have to tell us what kind of result you got from that and how the conversation with your wife was influenced by it ^.^
  16. Phy

    Is polyamorism in men correlated with sex drive?

    For the record: I do, and not just one :)
  17. Phy

    Is polyamorism in men correlated with sex drive?

    Ask the other way round. Are monogamous men automatically more sexually uninterested? I have two men more or less monogamous (for sure monoamorous in one case) at home and they could identify as your category 'multiple times per week'. I think that's up to the individual person and does not...
  18. Phy

    Poly Vignettes: Sharing Success & Happiness

    Feels strange that I was reminded of this thread because of the (relative) longevity of our poly relationship(s) today and thought about posting. But I will nevertheless, Miss Indie. :) I was just thinking how much support, love, acceptance, understanding, willingness to make it work and...
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    Phy's story - as you like it

    :D Great one ;) there seems to be a natural archetype for everything the humans try to invent or live up to ^.^ Thanks for posting.
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    Mya's search for balance

    Really sorry to read about the latest developments :( Hopefully you can work through this mess soon and get over your resentment. But it is totally understandable that you suffer right now, she handled things poorly.
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