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I'm not sure why a majority here are opposed to you helping your girlfriend financially. The power dynamics between two people, wealthy and poor, I think, exist even without monetary exchange. May I ask what the age difference is? With the power dynamics already questionable, the remaining...

Will he do counseling with you? If conversations are falling apart maybe a professional in the room can help make it more productive. I think we have seen this advice given to people who are consenting but experiencing cold feet. In this case however, I don't see how it would be any different...

I would be interested in knowing the context behind his statement. I find the history portion of this thread fascinating.

I see at least five distinct topics being discussed. Polyamory: A Feminist Movement? I perceive this as a matter of definition. I would expect a feminist movement to define advocacy for equality as central to its definition. For instance, women’s suffrage clearly meets the criteria of a...

I took screen captures of the Morning Glory article and compiled them into pdfs if anyone is interested in reading it, I did this for my own sanity because that website was unbearable. They had to be compressed to meet the upload limits on this website so the quality is only so-so.

Right! The absolute and extreme hierarchy didn’t go unnoticed. Additionally, I found it telling that all of the most precious people in MorningGlory’s life were those her husband preselected and brought home, with their genders left unspecified. I’m uncertain about crediting the architects of...

I have been thinking about what MeeraReed said in regards to the origin of polyamory. Until Meera's post I was not giving any thought to the origins of the movement or the word, rather the definition as I understood it today. Regardless, I did some googling to land on the first use of the word...

I did not realize that. I was not able to go back and find that statement. My argument is based on the thread title, and the proposition as I understood it was: Polyamory specifically, as in can be defined as a "feminist movement." I do not think the issue was a false dichotomy. I believe...

I believe that online forums can develop a distinct culture. Regular users establish unwritten rules and norms that subtly govern behavior. The reactions of regular users to posts, including simple actions like likes/dislikes and tone, can create feedback loops that reinforce certain expressions...

@Mags You keep referring to FMF as polygyny. I don't know if that's meant to be a slight or if I'm just being sensitive. Regardless, I think the statement "FMF = polygyny, not polyamory" both narrows the definition of polyamory and broadens the definition of polygyny. When I describe my...

This website existed back when OPPs were discussed often, even by prominent members of the community, if I am not mistaken? When I dig through old posts, I see a community that has evolved. I think polyamory and monogamy are relationship styles that go way way back, but both have been...

This thread lacks any thesis so my understanding of the argument at this point goes something like this: “Polyamory is a feminist movement because monogamy is a product of the patriarchy." Is that about right? Does polyamory do enough for women’s issues to qualify as a feminist movement? It...

If you were to divorce and divide all assets, would you still be interested in pursuing polyamory together? Can you accept your husband/wife impregnating or becoming pregnant with another person? Are you comfortable subjecting yourself to some level of sexual health risks? Are you interested...

I’m troubled by some of the rhetoric in this thread too. Saying yes out of fear is not consent. If your spouse resents you because you are unable to revoke the contract of monogamy, that is their choice to make, and should not factor into your consent. That’s the biggest issue I see here, a...

Poly doesn’t mean that all of your previous standards for consenting to a relationship go out the window. I don’t date people who get black out drunk, or otherwise have poor boundaries that keep me up at night worrying about them. I drew that line in the sand long before poly was part of my...

You might also think about getting a sturdy bed frame… Particularly if there will be a lot of movement on the bed.

Polyamory is about being informed about other relationships and consenting to a relationship structure. It does not sound like you were informed about or consented to the love triangle you briefly became involved in. I get a little annoyed that some people think because I’m poly that I am...

Are you close friends with the meta? Or is the polyship the only reason you associate?

Worldwide, I imagine sister-wife polygamy relationships outnumber polyamory relationships. Those individuals face hostility on poly forums so they aren’t typically members of the poly community. Anyway In poly language what’s being described here is a mono-poly V with husband as the hinge...

I disagree about this being a unicorn hunting situation. It sounds like old fashion polygamy to me. I encourage the OP to do some independent research about polygamy.