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lol I don't even see my husband more than two weekends a month. I'm *so over* this long-distance marriage bullshit! He works for the railroad and is always on the road. It was fine when I was doing my PhD because I was uber busy too, and frankly it was good not to have the distraction. But...

Ah. Then, a couple things come to mind... One is that it's perfectly fine to tell someone "btw, I like sending a lot of messages as I get to know someone. Don't feel obligated to drop everything and answer them right away, I understand if you need a couple days to think about it or find time to...

I've also noticed a lot more people being vocal about their challenges in both the kink and poly community, but I don't think that reflects a higher incidence of those different-abilities. I chalk it up more to the fact that poly and kinky people are, by necessity, more introspective and...

I think there are certain personality traits that lend themselves to dating in general: outgoing, social, conversational... Polyamory-specific, I prefer relationship-supporting traits: patient, compassionate, understanding... To be human is to care what other people think. It's written in our...

I'm going to turn this question on its head. If you find you have to make concerted effort to message to someone, maybe that's a sign that you're not really that interested in them. When I meet someone on OKC and they're really interesting, I find myself answering their messages simply because...

Some needs are self-specific, some needs are relationship-specific. Empathy and compassion are elements I need in any relationship I'm in, or it's not worth my time and energy. I can't substitute empathy in one relationship to feel closer or more cared about by someone in another relationship...

This sounds like the smartest advice. No matter what you find on the internet, it will just be something you find on the internet. One way or the other, it's not realistic to expect your partner to trust her daughter's safety to anything you find online. Many LGBTQ-focused clinics will offer...

There's nothing wrong with asking your partner if they'd be willing to give you extra reassurance when they start a new relationship, but is that the best strategy to satisfy your ultimate desire of maintaining the love and connection you share? Thinking about your partner meeting someone new...

You said "seeing each other" for two weeks. That's not the same as making an official commitment to "be in a relationship." There's this thing people do called "dating." There's no obligation to disclose things about your life that are potentially professionally or socially harmful to other...

It's understandable that you'd love your two partners to be closer. Having experienced that before, and the connection it brings into your life, it's natural to want to have something like that again. I like names so I'm going to call A1 Ashley, A2 Mitch, and A3 Charlie. Ashley got his heart...

Hey Canadians! We have one of the first TV shows on network television with an openly polyamorous relationship!! "Crawford" on CBC features a family where the wife has a boyfriend and the husband knows all about it. I've only watched 4 episodes, but it's interesting how it's being handled...

Maybe yes, maybe no. If you're in a relationship with someone who's being abused by their other partner, it's virtually impossible for it not to bleed through. An abused person is an abused person even when they're not in the presence of their abuser. My concern is that the only way to isolate...

Speaking as someone who's been in the last 2 weeks of school 3 different times, not including high school... yeah, the guy's just acting totally normal for someone trying to get through the hardest finals he's ever taken. If he's got mental health issues on top of it, then the fact he's even...

I'm just going to be blunt. What the hell were you thinking? Sleeping with your fiance's best friend and roommate? When your fiance is mono, to boot?? Yeah, of course "poor C" feels like shit. He's not even poly, and you basically threw his whole life into a blender because you couldn't keep...

Perhaps your partner is a serial monogamist in disguise? Now that word about polyamory has "gotten out," it seems as though some people use it as a cover to line up their next monogamous relationship without having to go through singlehood.

Be careful about projecting how YOU experience romantic connections (i.e. "mostly governed by sexual attraction") onto the concept itself. Your comment negates the very real romantic connections experienced by asexual people.

I echo the sentimentality that what matters most is clearly defining your own needs and how you expect your husband to help you meet them. You have needs as a parent, and you say he's doing a pretty good job helping you meet the co-parenting needs. And you have needs as a wife, and it sounds...

Now get Glasses to text them a picture of Ginger and the kids...

I haven't even read the other posts yet as I'm sure he's already gotten lambasted. If he gets to do poly, so do you. There is nothing less trust-inducing than someone saying "trust me." If he's already failing to meet your needs for security and comfort just in the planning stages, how can you...

Sorry, I'm confused by the unicorn reference together with "his happiest moments." Typically the unicorn label refers to a bisexual woman brought into a previously monogamous, heterosexual relationship in an attempt to deliberately form a triad. But you're already a MFM vee, so I don't really...